1Peter3

Hope Replaces Fear

We are to offer our praise to God alone who is deserving, our prayers to God alone who is able, our service to God alone who is the embodiment of love, and our gratitude to God alone who has saved us through His Son.

Look at the last phrase of 1Peter 3:14, ‘AND DO NOT FEAR THEIR INTIMIDATION, AND DO NOT BE TROUBLED’, taken from Isaiah 8:12-13, "You are not to say, 'It is a conspiracy!' In regard to all that this people call a conspiracy, and you are not to fear what they fear or be in dread of it. "It is the LORD of hosts whom you should regard as holy. And He shall be your fear, and He shall be your dread.

Let’s be reminded of the context in which this was written. The Apostle Peter was writing to encourage the dispersed Christians to keep moving forward in the truths which had been revealed to them even though they suffered because of their transformed lives.

This encouragement of moving forward in truth is easily applied to modern-day believers. Think of all the things that allow you to be distracted from what is truly important. Our natural desires cause us to want to fit in, to be liked, to be comfortable, and to have positive experiences. We avoid trouble, criticism, and the thought of being different. Others around us may become easily bothered by the injustices they see in their communities, government, and the world. They may feel that a personal call to action is necessary to right these wrongs. And when you do not jump on their bandwagon, you may be ridiculed, or ostracized, for not caring about their passions. However, if we follow the example of Jesus, we will stand firm in truth, yet promote peace for the purpose of sharing the Gospel.

So how do we not succumb to the fear and intimidation of others?

In order to answer the question above, we need to understand why we are intimidated. I think we can easily be caught off-guard; we forget that we are to expect those who do not know Christ to think we are different and perhaps a bit weird. We sometimes allow ourselves to be surprised that others may not think the same as us. We become intimidated when we think others speak wrongly of us, when we are misunderstood, or when others have the power to make our life miserable.

Our security must come from Jesus alone – we are His children, purchased by Him for His glory, justified through His sacrifice. Whenever our security comes from men, doors of doubt will open.

We need to be reminded consistently of who we are in Christ and remember our mission in Him is to share His gospel to those who are unsaved, and to encourage those who are like-minded. We need to fight the temptation of wanting to be accepted by everyone. We should not be intimidated by those who disagree with God’s word. We should also not be intimated by those who do claim to be Christians yet disagree with us. The reality is that we are all different; we see circumstances differently, and we think differently. God is the one whom we serve and follow. God shall be our fear; God shall be our dread.

Matthew 10:28 "Do not fear those who kill the body but are unable to kill the soul; but rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.

Luke 12:4 "I say to you, my friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body and after that have no more that they can do. "But I will warn you whom to fear: fear the One who, after He has killed, has authority to cast into hell; yes, I tell you, fear Him!

Pray for a heart of humility – remembering we are saved only because of God’s grace, not because of anything we have done or deserve;

Pray for true compassion for those who do not know Jesus as their Lord and Savior – their end is eternal suffering;

Pray for gentleness and boldness in sharing the truth of God’s love for all mankind and His coming judgement of all who refuse Him.

John 14:27 "Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful.

Let’s read our text again. 1Peter 3:14 But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, [you are] blessed. AND DO NOT FEAR THEIR INTIMIDATION, AND DO NOT BE TROUBLED,

Troubled means to be stirred-up, or agitated. Most of us know others who are easily angered; perhaps even you struggle with this. These are the individuals we typically avoid because they are ready to explode at any moment. We tip-toe around them for fear that something will set them off!

Think! What often causes an individual to become agitated? Perhaps things don’t work the way they think they should, or people don’t respond the way they want them to. People can become anxious when they realize they are not in control, or they have made an error, or caused a problem – maybe the right words were not used to convey thoughts. Also, anxiety ensues when there doesn’t seem to be enough time to accomplish what is expected. You can probably pinpoint several situations where you lose the ability to remain calm and peaceful in your soul. 1Peter 3:14 is clear, it says we are not to be troubled. Remember, this was specifically written to those Christians who were being persecuted because of their faith. Most of us will never experience a direct threat to our physical body as a result of our faith. It seems then, our concerns are but a mere trifle in comparison, and the test to remain at peace and trust God in all things should be easy. But we are weak, and our sin nature produces a challenge for us. God is gracious to give us the solution to our negative responses.

“… the Gospel gives the believer a heart assured of God's favor, and therefore unruffled, amidst all adversities. Not only be not afraid, but be not even agitated”, Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Commentary.

“If we are true Christians, we have really no reason to be alarmed in view of anything that can happen to us. God is our protector, and he is abundantly able to vanquish all our foes; to uphold us in all our trials; to conduct us through the valley of death, and to bring us to heaven”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

“A most certain counsel in afflictions, be they never so terrible, to be of a steady mind and to stand fast. But how shall we attain to it? If we sanctify God in our minds and hearts, that is to say, if we rest upon him as one that is almighty that loves mankind, that is good and true indeed”, 1599 Geneva Bible Notes.

Consider Isaiah 8:13 again, “It is the LORD of hosts whom you should regard as holy. And He shall be your fear, and He shall be your dread”. If we are truly God’s children, then we know He is mightier than any foe, He is supreme above all forces from without and within, He is our perfect peace and protection, He is holy and righteous in all His ways, He is merciful and extends forgiveness to those who love Him. There is absolutely no fear in any difficulty if we fear Him. God always knows better, always acts in pure holiness, He is stronger than any foe, sees every situation perfectly clear, understands each heart motivation, and holds all in His hands for His glory.

We are unable to always see things clearly, which means quite often we do not fully understand. We do not need to understand everything in order to function with a heart set on eternity. We do need to trust in God’s strength, His plan, and His faithfulness. In those areas where you feel anxious or stifled, take the 5th – choose to be silent and not add your thoughts, instead pray that God will clear your thinking of what is not important and give you peace that He is in control of all things.

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

Who is there to harm you if you prove zealous for what is good? – No one!

If you do suffer for the sake of righteousness, consider it a blessing.

There is no reason to fear intimidation; nor are you to become agitated.

How can you apply the above truths?

Look at verses 15 and 16, which offer a solution to how we are to respond to those who are against us.

1Peter 3:15-16 but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence; and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.

Being fearful or angry requires energy! Concerns and bitterness can eat up our time and thoughts. Instead of being fearful or angry, spend your time and thoughts in ways which are pleasing to God.

Sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts.

We are to always be ready to share the hope of the Gospel with an attitude of humility.

What does it look like to sanctify Christ in our hearts? How do we do this? What does it look like to be ready to share our hope?

How do we respond to others in humility?

How does showing reverence relate to gentleness?

Are you able to explain your hope?

“Such a sanctifying of the Lord in our hearts will save us from fear. We dread danger, we dread sickness, we dread death, we dread the eternal world. We are alarmed when our affairs are tending to bankruptcy; we are alarmed when a friend is sick and ready to die; we are alarmed if our country is invaded by a foe, and the enemy already approaches our dwelling. The sentiment in the passage before us is, that if we sanctify the Lord God with proper affections, we shall be delivered from these alarms, and the mind will be calm”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

Keep a good conscience.

It is God who has saved us. We are to be certain we are above reproach, remembering we are witnesses of Jesus. The reality is we cannot take care of everyone else. we are only messengers, witnesses for Jesus. We are not the ones who effect change in someone. God is the One who changes hearts and lives. So we are to be focused on living for Him. We are to pray for others to be enlightened. We are to be an example of God’s grace, looking for opportunities to share the truth of the Gospel.

Think! There is no room or purpose for argument or insult when speaking of our hope. We can only be thankful that God has, in His great mercy and grace, saved us, and share the reasons for our hope, and evidence of our faith.

Does your life speak of Jesus? Are you a defender of the Truth? We can lose our focus and spend our time and energy defending ourselves, but this is not what we are to defend. We are to make a defense of our hope.

Psalm 119:46 I will also speak of Thy testimonies before kings, and shall not be ashamed.

2Timothy 2:24-26 And the Lord's bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged, with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses [and escape] from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.

Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

“Ever remember that he has wisdom without error, power, without limits, truth without falsity, love without hatred, holiness without evil, and justice without rigour or severity on the one hand, or capricious tenderness on the other. In a word, that he neither can be, say, purpose, or do, any thing that is not infinitely just, holy, wise, true, and gracious; that he hates nothing that he has made; and has so loved the world, the whole human race, as to give his only-begotten Son to die for them, that they might not perish, but have everlasting life. Thus sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and you will ever be ready to give a reason of the hope that is in you to every serious and candid inquirer after truth.” Adam Clarke’s Commentary

We have hope because of Him. Our thoughts, actions, and words should esteem God as holy.

“No man ought to entertain opinions for which a good reason cannot be given; and every man ought to be willing to state the grounds of his hope on all proper occasions. A Christian should have such intelligent views of the truth of his religion, and such constant evidence in his own heart and life that he is a child of God, as to be able at any time to satisfy a candid inquirer that the Bible is a revelation from heaven, and that it is proper for him to cherish the hope of salvation”, Albert Barnes NT Commentary.

Seeking Approval of Men or God?

If we are blending in, then we are blundering in our witness for Jesus.

In our study of 1Peter 3, we are continuing with verses 13 and 14. Starting with the beginning of this chapter, we have gone from the command to submit to authority in a general sense, and then in more specific areas. Placing ourselves under the authority of another, helps in the purpose of working together well for the advancement of the Gospel and encouragement of the body of believers. Verses 8-12 have reminded us to pursue righteousness with the promise that God hears our prayers. Now we turn to the reality of living in an imperfect world and the strife that is present between those who seek to follow God through His grace, and those who are living for themselves and unable to see and understand God’s truths.

1Peter 3:13 Who is there to harm you if you prove zealous for what is good?

Reading the above verse is a reminder. We should never be more concerned with people liking us, agreeing with us, or even harming us, than we are with holy living and sharing God’s truths.

Right off the bat, we clearly see the struggle! If we are honest, we really do want others to like us. We feel good when others agree with us. We do not enjoy being ridiculed and rejected. So, we might have the tendency to avoid some conversations, and may even try to hide our true identity in Christ, or at the least, not speak of His importance in our life. Do you ever choose to be a little less than honest because you fear the response you will get? Have you ever decided to go along with something you know is not quite right, in order to avoid conflict? Do these things matter?

Peter’s words were both an encouragement and reminder to those who had believed in Jesus and now found themselves ostracized. This verse follows the promise in verse 12 that God will protect His children and hear their prayers. Not only are the eyes of the Lord toward the righteous, and His ears attentive to their prayer in verse 12, the text in verse 13 reads, who is there to harm you? This is a rhetorical question with an obvious answer – NO ONE. So we are given another reason to follow righteousness even though it may be difficult at times. Recall the words which come immediately before verse 13, “the face of the Lord is against those who do evil”. God is our protecter!

No real lasting harm can happen to those who are true Christians. This is a promise! Even physical death will not change your eternal reward in Heaven. Your salvation is secure.

Psalm 56:11 In God I have put my trust, I shall not be afraid. What can man do to me?

Psalm 118:6 The LORD is for me; I will not fear; what can man do to me?

The fear of man is a battle for us. If it were not, there would be no need for God to address it in His word. In what ways do you see the intimidation of others affect your decisions?

Ultimately, God will prevail, His truths will go forward, His strength is over all peoples and things. This is not a promise for security from evil and unrighteousness in the world, but a promise that as we strive to live according to God’s truths, He will use us for His purpose. God’s perfect plan will always be realized. Eventually, all God’s children will be vindicated. We have a reminder that regardless how others respond to us, whether positive or negative; or how difficult it may be to live for Christ; we have a purpose and a focus. God will take care of the details if we seek to remain faithful to Him.

Psalm 37:3-6 Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness. Delight yourself in the LORD; and He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He will do it. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light and your judgment as the noonday.

Proverbs 15:9 The way of the wicked is an abomination to the LORD, but He loves one who pursues righteousness.

Perhaps you have seen others turn against you simply because you would not join in with a certain behavior or lifestyle. People like to keep the company of those who make them feel good about themselves. When sin is exposed, they become uncomfortable and often feel the need to justify behavior by gathering others on ‘their side’. Most individuals are uncomfortable being singled out for any reason. It is true that Christians will be persecuted and even suffer. Why? Because they stand out from the crowd! Sometimes, it may look as though dishonesty and corruption prevail, but God remains faithful to His promises. Read with me what David wrote in Psalm 38.

Psalm 38:19 But my enemies are vigorous and strong, and many are those who hate me wrongfully. And those who repay evil for good, they oppose me, because I follow what is good.

In many cases, when a man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord – when they truly seek to live righteously in thought, word, and action towards others in all circumstances, – it will be increasingly difficult for someone to act against them. “In this case none could do them real harm; and this inoffensive, upright, and benevolent conduct, would generally in time disarm the enmity of their neighbors”, Thomas Scott. The quote from this commentary holds some truth.

Proverbs 16:7 When a man's ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him. KJV

Certainly, you can think of areas where the world’s ideals and your beliefs based on Scripture collide. We do need to be careful – it is not our place to make others understand, in fact we do not have the power to change someone’s thinking. But God does. In every situation, the problem that needs to be addressed is the Gospel. We do not have a fight against anyone; we are to fight for the truth. Have you noticed that when you answer in kindness to a harsh word, an individual loses their fight? There is not much satisfaction in having a verbal altercation by yourself! This causes me to remember a scripture in Proverbs –

Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

We must seek to keep our focus on God. He has a perfect plan and will prevail. He will use His children and all circumstances for His glory. Do not give others a reason to convict you of wrongdoing. How can you apply this in your life? Think of your attitude, your words, your actions, and your motivations – are you desiring to honor God in all areas?

Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Looking at the second half of 1Peter 3:13, consider what it means to ‘prove zealous for what is good’. I’m studying from the NAS95; other translations read ‘if you are followers of that which is good’. Think of this phrase as a continued following of imitating Christ. I actually like the word zealous because it conveys an active enthusiasm to follow the example we have in Jesus. Think! Jesus lived a perfect life on earth, even while being tempted as a Man. He never sinned, never returned an evil word or act. Even on the cross, He asked for forgiveness towards those who were persecuting Him. Christ did not come to the Earth for Himself; He came to fulfill the will of His Father. We were not created for our own good pleasure; we were created for God’s pleasure, His purpose, and His glory.

Revelation 4:11 "Worthy are You, our Lord and our God, to receive glory and honor and power; for You created all things, and because of Your will they existed, and were created."

1Thessalonians 5:15 See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people.

3John 1:11 Beloved, do not imitate what is evil, but what is good. The one who does good is of God; the one who does evil has not seen God.

Ephesians 5:1-2 Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.

Who are you living for?

Think about your goals; what is your focus for each day? If you are living for accolades from men, you will be sorely disappointed. Even in the Christian community, serving often goes without notice. As a believer, your treasures are in Heaven and in pleasing the One who has redeemed your soul.

Are you willing to prove yourself zealous for what is good, no matter the consequence?

Consider if your decisions are swayed by pleasing others rather than pleasing God. There may be a ‘cost’ to being a believer. Are you willing to ‘pay the price’ in your relationships, in your family, the workforce, your community?

Do you trust that regardless of how others might receive your message, you are secure in Christ?

We are to be zealous for what is good. We can have an active interest and enthusiasm for many things. Our concentration, however, needs to be on what is good – God alone, and His example, “if ye imitate Him who is supremely good”, Doddridge. I pray we are less concerned about what might befall us when we speak and act in God’s Truths, and more concerned about the blessings and encouragement we can share, trusting completely upon His protection of our soul. Proving to be zealous is not a call to join a picket line! God does not need us to hold up signs or shout at others! He desires us to follow the example of Jesus’ humility and love in our words and actions.

Moving forward to 1Peter 3:14. The early church at the time of Peter’s writing was subject to harsh treatment because it was different and opposed to what had been widely accepted. This caused unrest, criticism, disruption, and persecution.

Consider this vivid picture. We have over a dozen chickens. When one of them looks different or even acts different than the rest, it is subject to being pecked on by the other chickens. Its presence disrupts the flock simply because it does not conform. Then as one chicken sees another being bullied, it follows the behavior until there is a division called a pecking order. The underdogs, or under-chickens in this case, become pensive and stay in the background. We call this ‘fowl’ play 😊. Obviously, chickens do not have the capacity to think like humans yet their actions towards change and the threat perceived gives us a bit of a snapshot of human behaviors. Think of someone who talks differently, dresses differently, or looks different. Sometimes, being different causes ridicule or even harm. This is unfortunate but true.

The Jews had been given the Law, they sought to follow it, and were convinced that as God’s chosen people, they had it all together and were superior to others. The Gentiles were happily entrenched in their idolatrous practices which gave them the freedom to live without regulation. Now, from both groups, a movement had emerged which accepted neither of these former lifestyles. You can imagine the threat to leadership, position, and power in what had already been established.

Being a Christian in our culture today, holds little to no sense of suffering. It is simply melded with the hundreds of other ‘beliefs’ people have adapted to themselves. Even so, the reality of living in a world ruled by sin will inevitably lead to suffering as righteousness is pursued. Suffering and persecution may not be life-threatening in your particular circumstance, however, living for Christ will cause you to stand out. It must! Because the pursuits of the world do not agree with the pursuit of holiness. We must be consistent in our loyalty towards God.

If we are blending in, then we are blundering in our witness for Jesus.

James 5:12 But above all, my brethren, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or with any other oath; but let your yes be yes, and your no, no; so that you may not fall under judgment.

“Be ye true and steady in all that ye affirm or deny: not inconstantly varying in what ye speak; lest, through falsehood and unfaithfulness, ye fall into just condemnation”, Hall’s Explication of Hard Texts.

How would your family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors, describe you? Would they use the word Christian, or Believer, or follower of Christ, in their explanation? Would they say you love Jesus above all else? Would they recognize your unusual kindness, love, and compassion towards everyone?

1Peter 3:14 But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. AND DO NOT FEAR THEIR INTIMIDATION, AND DO NOT BE TROUBLED,

That we will suffer for the sake of righteousness is implied –

Matthew 5:10-11 "Blessed are those who have been persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. "Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.

1Peter 4:12-13 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you; but to the degree that you share the sufferings of Christ, keep on rejoicing, so that also at the revelation of His glory you may rejoice with exultation.

So when you do suffer for righteousness, you are blessed – our response should be to recognize our blessing! Blessed means happy, fortunate, well-off, or even supremely blessed. Grasping this truth puts a different spin on difficulties! Not that every bump in the road can be claimed as suffering for Christ; often we cause our own troubles. But when we are mistreated directly because of the truths we believe and the faith we have in Jesus, it proves we belong to Him and that we are living for Him. In this assurance we are blessed!

We are blessed because we have confirmation of our right standing with Christ.
We are blessed because no matter the difficulties on earth, we can look forward with certainty to treasures in Heaven.
We are blessed because we know God is working out His plan for mankind, and we have been called to be part of His perfect plan.
We are blessed because we are secure in His care and protection.

2Corinthians 4:17-18 For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Next, we read an encouragement quoted from the Old Testament, ‘do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled’. Once again, let’s be reminded of the context in which this was written. The Apostle Peter was writing to encourage the dispersed Christians to keep moving aforward in the truths which had been revealed to them even though they suffered because of their transformed lives.

Isaiah 8:12-13 "You are not to say, 'It is a conspiracy!' In regard to all that this people call a conspiracy, and you are not to fear what they fear or be in dread of it. "It is the LORD of hosts whom you should regard as holy. And He shall be your fear, and He shall be your dread.

Keep in mind and heart the words in 1Peter 3:13-14,

Who is there to harm you if you prove zealous for what is good? But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. AND DO NOT FEAR THEIR INTIMIDATION, AND DO NOT BE TROUBLED,

The Pursuit of Peace

God has graciously given His children a ‘road map’ which gives instruction and guidance on how to live blessed in His protection and care. If we seek to refrain from speaking evil and deceit; if we seek to do good and pursue righteousness; if we promote peace; then we will be blessed.

1Peter 3:10-12 follows a summary of how we are to live as believers –

1Peter 3:8-9 To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.

1Peter 3:10-12 For, "LET HIM WHO MEANS TO LOVE LIFE AND SEE GOOD DAYS REFRAIN HIS TONGUE FROM EVIL AND HIS LIPS FROM SPEAKING GUILE. "AND LET HIM TURN AWAY FROM EVIL AND DO GOOD; LET HIM SEEK PEACE AND PURSUE IT. “FOR THE EYES OF THE LORD ARE UPON THE RIGHTEOUS, AND HIS EARS ATTEND TO THEIR PRAYER, BUT THE FACE OF THE LORD IS AGAINST THOSE WHO DO EVIL.”

1Peter 3:10-12 For, "THE ONE WHO DESIRES LIFE, TO LOVE AND SEE GOOD DAYS, MUST KEEP HIS TONGUE FROM EVIL AND HIS LIPS FROM SPEAKING DECEIT. "HE MUST TURN AWAY FROM EVIL AND DO GOOD; HE MUST SEEK PEACE AND PURSUE IT. "FOR THE EYES OF THE LORD ARE TOWARD THE RIGHTEOUS, AND HIS EARS ATTEND TO THEIR PRAYER, BUT THE FACE OF THE LORD IS AGAINST THOSE WHO DO EVIL." NASB95

Verse 10 begins with a small yet significant word – For. This word assigns a reason, or gives an explanation in this case, of the necessity of seeking to live in a manner which glorifies God.

Look at the first phrase in verse 10, ‘Let him who means to love life and see good days’.

Do you love life? Do you determine to love life, choose to love life?

Seriously, we should make a choice to love life. What are your thoughts when you go to bed, when you get up in the morning? Do you view your time on earth as a gift from God or a burden to get through?

We should desire good days – they are opportunities to sing praise of His power and creation; to serve others in labor, and to share the Gospel. When you delight in life, you will look upon each moment of breath as a gift.

1Peter 3:10-12 is taken from the book of Psalms. Consider what happens when you engage yourself in trouble. There is no blessing, burdens abound, and yourself and others are hurt. We are exhorted instead to engage ourselves in the doing of good which results in blessing.

Psalm 34:11-17 Come, you children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD. Who is the man who desires life and loves length of days that he may see good? Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit. Depart from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it. The eyes of the LORD are toward the righteous and His ears are open to their cry. The face of the LORD is against evildoers, to cut off the memory of them from the earth. The righteous cry, and the LORD hears and delivers them out of all their troubles.

One commentary poses this question, “Seeing all men naturally desire happiness, he wonders why they cast themselves willingly into misery?”, 1599 Geneva Bible Notes.

Notice I included the NASB95 in the translation of 1Peter 3:10-12 above. The word refrain is an imperative, meaning ‘to make stop’. A genuine follower of Christ will seek to live in a way which glorifies His name. This is not an option. We must keep from evil if we desire to be blessed.

Consider your actions and your words – Do they lead others towards God or away from Him? Do we seek to be a blessing to those around us?

Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary says, “The words should be an exact representation of the truth”, he goes on to quote Rosenmuller, and a passage from the Hebrew book Musar, on Jewish ethics written in the 18th century, “A certain Assyrian wandering through the city, cried and said, 'Who will receive the elixir of life?' The daughter of Rabbi Jodus heard him, and went and told her father. 'Call him in,' said he. When he came in, Rabbi Jannei said to him, 'What is that elixir of life which thou art selling?' He said to him, 'Is it not written, What man is he that desireth life, and loveth days that he may see good? Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips that they speak no guile. Lo, this is the elixir of life which is in the mouth of a man!'"

Our words are powerful. Power must be treated with care.

James 1:19-20 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

James 1:26 If anyone thinks himself to be religious, and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this man's religion is worthless.

Hebrews 12:14 Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord.

“Such meekness is the best expedient to secure your peace and quiet with men, as well as protection and favor with God”, Dean Stanhope.

Consider again the word refrain in our text. This must be taken as a warning and with the understanding that we need a warning because we struggle with evil speaking.

Think!

How easy is it for you to naturally fall into defending yourself by dragging someone else down?

Or perhaps, you choose to lie – just a little bit – because being completely honest might have negative consequences. Are you prone to whisper behind someone’s back?

James 3:2-10 For we all stumble in many ways. If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body as well. Now if we put the bits into the horses' mouths so that they will obey us, we direct their entire body as well. Look at the ships also, though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small rudder wherever the inclination of the pilot desires. So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell. For every species of beasts and birds, of reptiles and creatures of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way.

Consider what is being said here – if we truly want to love and enjoy life, to see good days; not in the sense of everything is butterflies and roses, but in our understanding and perspective of God’s plan, then we will keep our speech from evil. This is a treasured ‘recipe’ God has given to His children. When our speech is harmful it is an indication that our heart is in turmoil. Perhaps you are acquainted with someone who is always ‘picking’ a fight, or has a complaint against another. There is turmoil in their heart; they are not restful, not loving life, and certainly not enjoying life. Maybe on the outside it looks as if they are, but inside a multitude of sorrows and problems have taken hold.

Proverbs 3:1-4 My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments; for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man.

Proverbs 8:34-36 "Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my gates, waiting at my doorposts. "For he who finds me finds life and obtains favor from the LORD. "But he who sins against me injures himself; all those who hate me love death."

In 1Peter 3:10, our speech was addressed; now in verse 11, action and behavior take center stage. The words used literally mean to eschew, to avoid, to deliberately go out of the way to avoid evil. Again, let us not miss the imperative – “He must turn away”. This is not a suggestion.

1Peter 3:11 "AND LET HIM TURN AWAY FROM EVIL AND DO GOOD; LET HIM SEEK PEACE AND PURSUE IT.

Romans 16:17 Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them.

Isaiah 1:17 Learn to do good; seek justice, reprove the ruthless, defend the orphan, plead for the widow.

Romans 12:18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.

Romans 14:19 So then let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.

Job is an example of one who shunned evil.

Job 1:1 There was a man in the land of Uz whose name was Job; and that man was blameless, upright, fearing God and turning away from evil.

We must turn away from evil and do good – not just in some situations, but in every circumstance. Think! Doing good, using kind words and actions, is not so difficult when others are reciprocating in the like. But, when others may not be so kind or cause trouble, or even urge you to fight, what is your response?

We must be continuously set on following God’s truths rather than the world’s troubles. Regardless of the words we hear, and regardless of the actions we see – we are to pursue righteousness. Think of our greatest example, Jesus. He suffered and died for us even while we sinned against Him. I have these words written on a canvas, which is a good reminder – ‘The Measure of Love is to Love without Measure’. Genuine love takes no account. You have heard the words, ‘a tit for a tat’. This is the opposite of loving without measure! It means an equivalent given in return or retaliation. Or ‘blow for blow’. A rhyme from the mid 1800’s in Notes &Queries (2nd series, vol.12, July-December 1861), seems to explain the meaning rather well:

“Tit for tat,

Butter for fat;

If you kill my dog,

I’ll kill your cat.”

Most likely, you have heard a child say, ‘but they started it first’. Then a verbal or physical fight ensues, both parties trying to one-up the other for the sole purpose of ‘winning’ the fight. Unfortunately, adults can easily take part in this kind of behavior because we think we have something to prove. Or we think so highly of our own opinions that we are convinced others are wrong and it is our business to make them think differently. Instead we are to turn from evil words and actions. Instead of spending your time judging another for what they have done wrong or where they need to improve; or feeling hurt and unappreciated because no one seems to agree with or listen to you, maybe looking inside to yourself and see where you might need to change is a better use of time. Never does God tell us to stir up trouble, purposefully causing discord.

1Peter 3:11 in the KJV reads, Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. The words emphasized are direct opposites. Eschew means to avoid, ensue means to follow or practice. We are not only to run from evil, but we are also to run towards peace. It is not enough to just avoid that which is harmful or bad. We are to pursue the things that are profitable and good. When you consider pursuing something, it is a picture of following after something, to be in a quest for something, to search or hunt for something. Pursuing something takes time and devotion. It can be difficult to be at peace with those around you. It really does take effort and having the mindset of Christ’s humility. There is no room for insistence, or pride. In fact, look back to 1Peter 3:8-9, “To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing”.

“A peaceful spirit – a calm, serene, and equal temper of mind – is favourable to health, avoiding those corroding and distracting passions which do so much to wear out the physical energies of the frame; and such a spirit will preserve us from those contentions and strifes to which so many owe their death. Let any one reflect on the numbers that are killed in duels, in battles, and in brawls, and he will have no difficulty in seeing how a peaceful spirit will contribute to length of days”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

Though the commentary above was published in the early 1800’s, its application remains the same. We may not describe the unrest we see as duels and brawls, but obvious unrest and contentions in our society have resulted in death.

Consider what might happen if those who were bothered about their ‘rights’, or decisions made in government, chose to do good and pursue peace instead of arguing and attacking? Certainly, democracy gives voice to opinion, but to what extent are individuals to press their words and actions? How might things look different if men were to turn away from pride, selfishness, and evil, and earnestly practice peace?

“Since the Gospel is established as the perfect system of righteousness, nothing can be really good that is not done by or through the Gospel”, Brethren NT Commentary.

James 1:23-25 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was. But one who looks intently at the perfect law, the law of liberty, and abides by it, not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer, this man will be blessed in what he does.

Dr. Hammond, a theologian in the 1600’s commented on 1Peter 3:11, “Let him eschew evil. Abstaining from all sin, abounding in works of mercy, seeking and pursuing all peaceableness with all men”.

Psalm 37:27 Depart from evil and do good, so you will abide forever.

Proverbs 3:7 Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and turn away from evil.

Proverbs 16:6 By lovingkindness and truth iniquity is atoned for, and by the fear of the LORD one keeps away from evil.

Proverbs 16:17 The highway of the upright is to depart from evil; he who watches his way preserves his life.

Matthew 6:13-14 'And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.' "For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

Luke 6:35 "But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. "Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

Matthew 5:9 "Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.

James 3:17-18 But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

When you consider the scriptures you just read, are you quick to look at others whom you think need to improve? Or are you able to look at your own error and humbly ask God to help you change?

Let’s move to the final verse in this section of study and answer these questions:

Why should we put the effort into keeping our speech and action from evil?

Why should we strive for peace?

1Peter 3:12 "FOR THE EYES OF THE LORD ARE TOWARD THE RIGHTEOUS, AND HIS EARS ATTEND TO THEIR PRAYER, BUT THE FACE OF THE LORD IS AGAINST THOSE WHO DO EVIL."

When we strive to act according to God’s will, He will hear us and answer prayer. God will continually care for and protect us. One commentary says the original language is very emphatic, meaning the righteous man is always under God’s care. We have His guardianship and safekeeping. This is phenomenal when you consider who man is and who God is. That He would recognize and protect mere man, because he strives to be obedient, is a blessing totally undeserved. That He would hear our petitions and concerns at all times is a truth we can hold.

1John 5:14-15 This is the confidence which we have before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests which we have asked from Him.

Matthew Poole’s Commentary reads, “God watcheth over them, looks favourably on them, and hears their prayers; This he lays down as a motive to patience under injuries, and to keep us from tumultuating passions, and desires of revenge; that God sees all we suffer, hath a care of us, and is ready to hear, and in due time to help us”.

2Chronicles 16:9a "For the eyes of the LORD move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His.

Proverbs 15:3 The eyes of the LORD are in every place, watching the evil and the good.

We read a promise and a warning in 1Peter 3:12. God’s love is very real and something that most people want to talk about and receive; yet His perfect judgment is also very real. This truth should be a catalyst to share Christ’s message of salvation to all those will hear.

Proverbs 15:29 The LORD is far from the wicked, but He hears the prayer of the righteous.

John 9:31 "We know that God does not hear sinners; but if anyone is God-fearing and does His will, He hears him.

Would you rather have the benefit of God’s protection or the judgement of His punishment?

Would you rather see God’s love in His eyes for you, or God’s verdict in His face against you?

Do your words and actions come from a heart of genuine love for Jesus?

What are some ways you can apply the truths in 1Peter 3:10-12?

Blessings for Insults

Unfortunately, it is easy to see examples of retaliation all across the world. In America, it has become commonplace to hear of mass shootings which almost always seem to be fueled by revenge of some sort. People believe they or society has been wronged so they set out to express themselves by harming others.

Peter gave a general summary of the expected behavior among Christians in 1Peter 3:8. In verse 9, he gives a specific example along with a reminder of the inheritance we have in Christ.

We are to be like-minded, show sympathy, have brotherly love, be compassionate and humble. The opposite would be to return evil for evil or insult for insult. Let’s look at what this means.

First, the three letters that spell ‘not’ leave no room for exception in these behaviors. ‘Not’ expresses an absolute denial. God forbid, never are we to involve ourselves in these things. The idea of not getting back at someone hits us at the core of our prideful hearts. In our flesh, we naturally want to avenge ourselves, to prove our supposed innocence, and to look better than others. We instinctively want others to feel sorry for us when we are mistreated. Unfortunately we are all guilty of those unbecoming conversations which begin with the words, “Can you believe what he/she did?”. What follows is usually a rendition of the wrongdoing towards us and our quick judgement and sentence of another’s guilt. We then feel vindicated; we become puffed up with pride. Does this honor God?

You have heard the word payback. This word can have either a positive or negative connotation. The negative meaning is an act of revenge or retaliation. It stems from vengeance. Unfortunately, it is easy to see examples of retaliation all across the world. In America, it has become commonplace to hear of mass shootings which almost always seem to be fueled by revenge of some sort. People believe they or society has been wronged so they set out to express themselves by harming others. Note for a moment the majority of lawsuits. What is the premise? To indict a penalty upon someone who has wronged someone else. Obviously, there are absolute times when this is necessary for protection and order. But often, accusations are simply borne out of a need to prove someone’s guilt.

What results from returning evil for evil or insult for insult?

No one is blessed! Strife, envy, pride, and hate manifest themselves in wicked behavior. Relationships are harmed, and seething anger can become volatile. People are physically and emotionally harmed.

It may be easy to see this in the world around us but what about in your immediate world?

Do you hold on to grudges?

Do you resent those who have injured you; do you harbor bad feelings towards them?

Do you feel as if you have a score to settle?

Are you able to genuinely pray that those who have harmed you are blessed? If they are unsaved, do you pray for their understanding of the Gospel?

Think! Without good we would not recognize evil; without Christ we do not understand the depths of sin. Remember why the Old Testament Law was given – to show the Israelites their sin and their need of a Savior to come.

We should not be surprised at the sin among us,

however we must be serious about the sin in ourselves.

As a believer, we cannot be comfortable with our own sinful behavior! We easily see the downturn of humanity in the world, but our focus needs to be on demonstrating Christ’s forgiveness in our own lives. This means we do not react to evil or insults by returning the same – or even thinking the same.

Proverbs 20:22 Do not say, "I will repay evil"; wait for the LORD, and He will save you.

Proverbs 24:29 Do not say, "Thus I shall do to him as he has done to me; I will render to the man according to his work.

Romans 12:17-18 Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.

Matthew 5:39-40 "But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. "If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also.

Is this difficult? Yes, however we must fight against our natural tendency to sin. Jesus died and rose again – sin no longer reigns in a believer’s heart. We are called to give a blessing to those who wrong us. Our text reads, not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead.

Romans 12:14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.

Romans 12:19-21 Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY," says the Lord. "BUT IF YOUR ENEMY IS HUNGRY, FEED HIM, AND IF HE IS THIRSTY, GIVE HIM A DRINK; FOR IN SO DOING YOU WILL HEAP BURNING COALS ON HIS HEAD." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Matthew 5:44 "But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,

When we look at Matthew 5:44 and the command to love our enemies, it is not that we approve of their conduct. We should not love the actions of someone who curses and reviles us, and injures our person or property, or violates the laws of God. “Though we may hate his actions, and even be deeply injured by it, we may still wish well to the person; we may pity his madness and folly; we may speak kindly of him, and to him; we may not return evil for evil; we may aid him in the time of trial; and seek to do him good here, and to promote his eternal welfare hereafter”, (excerpts from Barnes’ NT Commentary on Mt 5:44).

1Thessalonians 5:15 See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people.

Consider your own unworthiness. God chose to bestow numerous blessings upon your life – regardless of your pitiful state, regardless of your guilt. Because He loves you, He sent His Son to die, to pay the penalty of your sin. How can we who are blessed beyond measure not show forgiveness to another?

Read the following warning in Proverbs.

Proverbs 17:13-14 He who returns evil for good, evil will not depart from his house. The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so abandon the quarrel before it breaks out.

Consider the example of Jesus. He did not return insult; He kept entrusting Himself to God. He did not give up, rather He surrendered Himself to His Father and kept moving forward in His Father’s plan trusting Him to make things right.

1Peter 2:23 and while being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously;

The admonition in 1Peter 3:9 is not only not returning evil or insult, but also returning good for evil or insult.

"Knowing that you were called to be Christians in order that you should obtain a blessing infinite and eternal in the heavens. Expecting such a blessing yourselves, you should be ready to scatter blessings on all others. You should be ready to bear all their reproaches, and even to wish them well. The hope of eternal life should make your minds calm; and the prospect that you are to be so exalted in heaven should fill your hearts with benignity and love." There is nothing which is better fitted to cause our hearts to overflow with benignity, to make us ready to forgive all others when they forgive us, than the hope of salvation. Cherishing such a hope ourselves, we cannot but wish that all others may share it, and this will lead us to wish for them every blessing. A man who has a hope of heaven should abound in every virtue, and show that he is a sincere well-wisher of the race. Why should one who expects soon to be in heaven harbour malice in his bosom? Why should he wish to injure a fellow-worm? How can he?”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

Luke 6:27-28 “But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

1Peter 3:9 not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.

“Ye are called to inherit a blessing – therefore their railing cannot hurt you; and, by blessing them, you imitate God, who blesses you”, John Wesley’s Notes.

In the past, I have travelled to the warm weather in the Caribbean during the cold months of January in the states. I did not concentrate on packing for the winter, I planned on being prepared for the balmy weather that awaited me.

As you sojourn through your time on earth, what are you concentrating on? Where is your focus? What are you preparing for? Are you engulfed in the problems and pursuits of this world or the promises for your final destination?

“This is your calling-your business in life, to do good, and to do good for evil, and to implore God's blessing even on your worst enemies. And this is not only your duty, but your interest; for in so doing you shall obtain God's blessing, even life for evermore”, Adam Clarke’s Commentary.

When we remember our purpose, we are less likely to recount wrongs. When we remember God’s forgiveness, we will not remain intent on proving another’s guilt. In fact, we will not want to relinquish our time and opportunities for good only to indulge in unnecessary conflict. We will instead be preparing for the blessings ahead.

1Peter 2:21 For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps,

Matthew 25:34 "Then the King will say to those on His right, 'Come, you who are blessed of My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.

1Peter 1:3-5 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to obtain an inheritance which is imperishable and undefiled and will not fade away, reserved in heaven for you, who are protected by the power of God through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.

According to one commentary, to inherit a blessing is not only passive, but also active. “Receiving spiritual blessing from God by faith, and in your turn blessing others from love. It is not in order to inherit a blessing that we must bless, but because our portion is blessing”, Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Commentary, [Gerhard in Alford].

We have the blessing of forgiveness and eternal life in heaven with our Savior. Whatever we deem as suffering on earth is nothing compared to the blessings promised for our future. Shouldn’t we be able to show generosity in our forgiveness towards others? If we consider God’s great mercy shown toward us, we will be more apt to show generous mercy towards others.

“Not returning evil for evil, nor reproach for reproach; but, on the contrary, rather blessing, even to those that curse you, according to our Lord’s precept; knowing that to this purpose ye were called to the profession of Christianity, that ye might inherit a blessing immense and eternal; the expectation of which (considering its infinite importance) may well keep your spirits calm and composed, whatever be the injury and ill usage you may meet with from your fellow-men”, Philip Doddridge N.T.

Are you willing to bear whatever injuries you believe you have received, with a sincere prayer for the perpetrator’s good?

The People’s New Testament Commentary reads, “Hereunto were ye called. Peter enjoins good deeds for evil, and blessing for reviling, because any other course would be inconsistent with the Christian calling. Called to a heritage of blessing they must live lives of blessing, for "as a man soweth so also shall he reap".

Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.

Consider the immense blessing of heaven awaiting you. Let us act according to the truth of our salvation.

Humility = Mercy

We are not here for our own purpose, pursuits, or pleasure; we are here to work together in unity, as a body of believers, striving for the advance and encouragement of the Gospel … Harmony with others rarely includes the pursuit of your own agenda. Personal feelings and hurts, biases and grudges hold no place in being like-minded.

1Peter 3:8 To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit;

To sum up … You could say, in conclusion or the main point of all that was said, the goal or the desired result or purpose. If you have ever given a speech in school or written a paper, you typically begin with a goal and end with the most important thing to remember. It’s like saying, if there is anything at all you take away from this, here it is …

“Finally. As the last direction, or as general counsel in reference to your conduct in all the relations of life”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

Read 1Peter 2:13-3:7

In review, the Apostle Peter gives us the shortlist addressing the responsibilities of all believers; common exhortations to live in harmony towards the same goals. No matter the position or role, there is an expected response to one another in all those who follow Christ. Each child of God, all those whosoever follow Him, are given a lifestyle pattern to follow.

Does this mean in every circumstance and situation we are to strive for harmony, sympathy, love, compassion, and humility? Yes, what else could it mean? Do you read any exceptions?

When we look at 1Peter 3:9, we are given a few specific examples of fulfilling these commands. But for now we will stay with the text in verse 8 and seek to understand more fully each descriptive word written to us. In this way, we will get insight into the possible applications of 1Peter 3:8.

Be harmonious – like-minded, of one mind. Harmonious, is from homophron in the Greek text and only occurs this one time in the New Testament.

“Finally, in managing your affairs as a religious society, be all, whether married or not, of one mind”, Macknight on the Epistles.

Consider for a moment the importance of parents being in unity when making decisions for their children. If they are not, a child will quickly learn to go to the other parent if they do not like what they hear! This only serves to build discord in a family and any sense of strength or security is damaged. Unfortunately, we see this all too often today, with many family units split and sharing custody of children. These kids go from one home to the other often with different rules at each home. Imagine how confusing this is! A feeling of insecurity quickly develops and the children are often left to wonder what is truly expected of them. Unity in decisions makes for a solid foundation.

Unity is necessary in all relationships in order to run well. Harmony or like-mindedness in our goals will affect the outcome of our service. If members of the body work together well, we are blessed with forward movement in our desire to honor Jesus. When we lack unity or harmony, our ministry becomes difficult. As children of God we have one purpose – to glorify Him in all things, and one mission – to make disciples.

The English definition for harmonious reads, “Exhibiting equivalence or correspondence among constituents of an entity or between different entities; musically pleasing”. Think of the discord caused when musicians play their different instruments, and someone is out of tune or hits an obvious wrong note. The experience is derailed for a moment and the goal to play beautiful music together is temporarily interrupted. The words ‘exhibiting equivalence’ denote qualities that are comparable. In other words, each entity involved has the same value.

Think! Is it possible that someone else’s idea may be as good, perhaps even better, than your own?

Does pride keep you from acknowledging the valuable insight and suggestions of others?

Are you as willing to accept direction from others as you are to give it?

What if you really feel your thoughts are right or best yet others cannot agree? Can you concede and be at peace trusting that your vision is not the only one and that ultimately God will direct His purpose?

Are you willing to follow?

1Corinthians 1:10 Now I exhort you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all agree, and there be no divisions among you, but you be made complete in the same mind and in the same judgment.

Acts 4:32 And the congregation of those who believed were of one heart and soul; and not one [of them] claimed that anything belonging to him was his own; but all things were common property to them.

Romans 12:16 Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation.

Romans 15:5 Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus;

Philippians 3:13-17 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Let us therefore, as many as be perfect, be thus minded: and if in anything ye be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you; however, let us keep living by that same [standard] to which we have attained. KJV

How can you seek to be harmonious with your brothers and sisters in Christ?

Do you strive to be like-minded in faith, based on God’s word, or do you cause disruption and discouragement?

We are not here for our own purpose, pursuits, or pleasure; we are here to work together in unity, as a body of believers, striving for the advance and encouragement of the Gospel. Consider – a group of individuals where the obvious majority agrees on a certain path. You are convinced that your way is best. There is no sin issue involved. What do you do? Are you willing to relinquish your vision in order to work together? Living in harmony requires sacrifice of self, placing the goal of unity as more important than personal likes or desires.

Harmony with others rarely includes the pursuit of your own agenda. Personal feelings and hurts, biases and grudges hold no place in being like-minded. Rather, forgiveness, grace, and a desire for peace must be pursued. We will never get anywhere by concentrating on the faults of others!

Harmony requires the rare art of truly listening and hearing

someone else’s plan, thoughts, or suggestions,

with a heart attitude that they have something valuable to offer.

Be sympathetic – sumpathes, having a fellow-feeling, mutually commiserative, having compassion on one another. ‘Friendly fellow feelings’ is the descriptive phrase used to define sympathetic in our English dictionary. It is an awareness and understanding for the hardships of others. Synonyms used for this word are large-hearted, charitable, and openhearted. When you put together this description of having feelings and compassion and charity, you quickly recognize that being sympathetic in a true working sense requires some action.

Most charitable organizations are created to help others; to benefit others in some way. A charitable attitude towards others is “a kindly and lenient attitude toward people”, WordWeb. It is an attitude which is quick to think the best, rather than the worst, being willing to overlook mistakes. This is the opposite of being harsh or cruel. You may be thinking, ‘how does sympathy relate to an attitude of overlooking mistakes?’.

Think! When someone is in an undesirable position because of poor decisions, it can become increasingly difficult to continue to offer sympathy for their hardships and suffering. We can easily judge others without even realizing it. But we need to think of God’s sympathy towards us as His children. In general, we mess up all the time; sometimes out of ignorance, sometimes out of defiance. Yet, God continues to pick us up, give us what we need to get back on track, and always extends His lovingkindness. This is true sympathy. He never withholds His mercy towards us. Let us be as quick to forgive others for their mistakes as we are to forgive ourselves!

The word for sympathetic is only used in 1Peter 3:8. A closely related word, sumpascho, is found in two other places in the New Testament, and is translated to suffer with.

Romans 8:16-17 The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, heirs also, heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with [Him] in order that we may also be glorified with [Him.]

The second place this word is found is in the account of Paul explaining to the Corinthian church the importance of each member of the body working together.

1Corinthians 12:26 And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; if [one] member is honored, all the members rejoice with it. (cf. 1Corinthians 12:20-27).

We show sympathy to those who are struggling when we are able in some way to come alongside them, to walk through their difficulty with them by giving them support, encouragement, and understanding. Picture an unlit area of wilderness you must walk through. Holding hands with another individual through that journey will not change it, but it will make it more tolerable. Often, just by knowing there are others in the midst of the storm with you will cause you to feel more courageous. Sincere offerings of ‘It’s going to be okay’, or ‘I’m right here with you’, may be all that is needed for success. When we are able to support one another in sympathy, we all benefit together!

We can apply this by truly desiring to come alongside another’s hardships, regardless of our own judgment of their decisions. Remember, it is God who changes hearts and executes wisdom to do His will. It is not our role to fix others or to continuously point out mistakes; it is our role to be sympathetic.

Think! What would be the purpose of writing a long list of failures you see in someone else and handing it to them? Is this truly the way to edify or encourage? This only serves to tear down the recipient while lifting up the presenter. If you are always on someone else’s case magnifying their errors, perhaps you need to turn the magnifying glass on yourself and fight the pride in your own heart.

Be brotherly – from philadelphos, fond of brethren, i.e. fraternal: - love as brethren. This word only occurs in this verse. It comes from a combination of philos, meaning dear as in a dear friend, actively fond or friendly; as a noun it can mean an associate or neighbor, and adelphos, a brother either near or remote, much like the first letter of the Greek alphabet 1, occasionally used in the sense of union (Strong’s Greek Dictionary).

To be fond of someone in this sense is to be partial to them, having a strong preference for them. A fraternity is an organization which has like characteristics. If you think of fraternal twins, they share the same mother at the same time. They are not exactly alike but very closely related. In Christ, we are family. We share in His mercy and grace needed for our eternal redemption. You might think of it this way – we are in a forever fraternity looking to share in the same promise of Heaven.

Romans 12:10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;

1Peter 1:22 Since you have in obedience to the truth purified your souls for a sincere love of the brethren, fervently love one another from the heart,

1Peter 2:17 Honor all people, love the brotherhood, fear God, honor the king.

Often, there is an unspoken bond between siblings in the same family. Even if they are varied in their likes, thinking, and goals, they will come to each other’s aide if needed. How much more is our bond in Christ! True identity with Christ will separate you from the world. However, it will join you with the family of Christ. Your purpose and your goal becomes rooted in God’s commands and love for you. And one of His commands is to love one another just as He loved us, giving up ourselves for the benefit of another. This is brotherly love.

John 15:12 "This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.

1Thessalonians 4:9-10 Now as to the love of the brethren, you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another; for indeed you do practice it toward all the brethren who are in all Macedonia. But we urge you, brethren, to excel still more,

We are united in the same family, having the same purpose of glorifying God, and the same charge of making disciples. We are to abundantly love one another!

In what specific ways can you show brotherly love towards your family in Christ?

Is it necessary to be in complete agreement with one another in order to love one another?

Be kindhearted – eusplagchnos, well compassioned, sympathetic, pitiful, tender-hearted.

This is a considerable or substantial showing of understanding and support. When reading the word pitiful, it helps to think pity full. It is being full of sympathy and sorrow for the misfortune of others. This brings us back to the importance of showing understanding and compassion for others, feeling for their suffering, and desiring to help. This same word is translated ‘tender-hearted’ in Ephesians 4:32.

Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

As we move through Peter’s exhortations to believers, it is easy to recognize that having peace and love for one another is a priority; working together, and seeking to be agreeable is highly regarded and honors God. If we seriously invest in developing a sincere love one for another, then we will avoid, as much as possible, being the cause of suffering. Certainly, there is no place for hate or attack toward one another. Take a moment and look forward to Chapter 4 in 1Peter.

1Peter 4:11 Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the utterances of God; whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belongs the glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.

“… my brethren, {be} all unanimous, guarding against all unnecessary occasion of contention; be sympathizing, full of brotherly love to all Christians, compassionate to those that are in distress, and friendly to all those that need your assistance”, Doddridge.

One commentary suggests the translation of being kindhearted is being ready to show mercy. This supports the command in Ephesians 4:32 above. As we move through the conduct of those who seek to follow God, we recognize certain behaviors are closely related and even seem to overlap in their meanings. We must keep in mind this is not a list of things to check off but an overflowing of love which stems from a heart yielded to God. Having defined each characteristic listed in 1Peter 3:8 so far, it would seem difficult to be harmonious without having sympathy, love, and mercy for one another; and all of this would be impossible without humility.

Be humble in spirit – philophron, literally friendly of mind; kind, courteous. According to one commentary, “the oldest manuscripts read, ‘humble-minded’. It is slightly different from ‘humble’, in that it marks a conscious effort to be truly humble”, Jamieson-Fausset-Brown.

Often, our natural reaction to unpleasant circumstances is to place blame somewhere, usually anywhere but on ourselves. Responsibility for our actions is then removed and wrong behavior or thinking is excused. We are to be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit as a response to our salvation, not as a response to how others treat us or to their own flawed behaviors. In other words, we can be of one mind in our unity of being Christ-followers. We can choose to be sympathetic to those are struggling. We can show love based on our common need of God’s grace and mercy. We can be kindhearted, showing compassion. We need to show grace and humility in our relationships with one another. It is good to remember frequently that it is only because of God that we ourselves are worthy.

It is so important to note that none of our actions are to be a result of someone else’s actions. We are individually responsible to show the same grace and mercy that has been extended to us in Christ, to others. If Jesus were to have died for our sins dependent on our own worthiness, we would all be headed straight to Hell. Instead, He was full of mercy towards undeserving mankind.

Do you see others through the lens of God’s value placed on them? Each individual is precious in His sight. Our life is not about us, it is about what Jesus did. I think of Paul’s words to the Colossian church –

Colossians 3:1-3, Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.

Colossians 3:12-15 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful.

Humility in heart extends mercy in action.

Submission to Authority

What thoughts enter your mind when you hear the word submission?

What examples of submission are practiced regularly?

Let’s pick up our study in 1Peter 3 posted on January 24th. Recall in 1Peter 2, we read the command to submit to those in authority (v.13). We then moved from a general application of submission to more specific applications. Servants are commanded to submit to their masters (v.18). Our example of submission is Christ to His Father’s will (v.21-24). In 1Peter 3 we were given another specific example of submission – wives to their husbands (v.1). In all instances, submission in a believer’s life stems from obedience to the word and is a reflection of the heart.

1Peter 3:7 now addresses the specific role of husbands to their wives. Fulfilling any role or command in Scripture is a picture of submission to God as our Head. His is the ultimate authority and we glorify His name when we willingly follow His word.

1Peter 3:7 You husbands likewise, live with [your wives] in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

A husband is to live with his wife in an understanding way.
A woman is a weaker vessel.
A husband is to honor his wife as a fellow heir.
The result is unhindered prayer.

‘Likewise’ tells us to look back. The same principle of submission and obedience to the word from the heart is applied to the husband. His submission is to Christ; He is to follow the commands God put forth to a husband. You could say, ‘In the same way’, or ‘In the same manner’. 1Peter 3:7 says husbands are to live with their wives in an understanding way, or according to knowledge in the KJV.

Think! What must one do to live in an understanding way, or according to knowledge?

To live according to knowledge, implies that something is known. I am unable to understand and apply information I am unaware of. So, we must seek knowledge with a desire to understand. This knowledge then is more than information stored, it is information applied. In order for us to begin to try and fulfill the commands God has set forth for us in specific relationships, we need to be able to answer some questions. Since marriage is addressed, this is where we will focus our thoughts. What does God’s word say about the marriage relationship? What does God’s word say about the roles of husband and wife? What is God’s design for husband and wife? It would seem reasonable that the answers to these questions would be the basis to living in an understanding way with one another.

Consider the importance of authority or leadership in any role to a believer – this responsibility requires a careful regard for the encouragement and care of those you are leading. God made a woman as a helper to man – it is wise for him to encourage his wife who is specifically designed to help and support him.

Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."

Genesis 2:23-24 And the man said, "This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

Think for a moment of encouraging those in leadership. Many of you have worked in the education system. You may have experienced students who follow leadership and direction eagerly, and students who disregard authority. How does this affect the classroom? Is it encouraging or discouraging to those in charge?

What are you called to do when you don’t agree with those in authority or leadership?

In 1Peter 3:7, we read the words, ‘as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman’. In our world and culture today, these words totally do not fly! You could not be more politically incorrect! To be called a weaker vessel because you are a woman is considered demeaning and oppressive. I fear you would have woman’s rights advocates pounding on your door if you verbally promoted this! However, this is what God’s word says, so it is important. It is truth (whether we like it or not or agree with it or not) and must be addressed. But let’s make sure we understand the definition of a weaker vessel. We can jump to conclusions and easily take offense without truly understanding what is meant by a weaker vessel.

What comes to your mind when you think of something being weak?

Weaker, from asthenes, means strengthless – literally, figuratively, and morally. It carries the idea of being feeble, impotent, sick, without strength, and weak (-er, -ness, thing).

Obviously, the definition above seems to be a gut punch. This is quite opposite of the words from the 1996 song, “I Am Woman”, sung by Helen Reddy. You probably recognize some of the lyrics – “I am woman, hear me roar, in numbers too big to ignore … I am strong, I am invincible”. This song actually became relevant in the feminist fight for equality.

I looked up the word weaker in WordWeb and twelve definitions were listed. Among them:

Wanting in physical strength; “a weak pillar”
Wanting in moral strength, courage, or will; having the attributes of man as opposed to e.g. divine beings; “I’m only a weak human”
Deficient or lacking in some skill

And my favorite:

Lacking bodily or muscular strength or vitality; as in “a weak old woman”

Personally, I’m not offended by this, perhaps because I am able to relate!

If you google the question ‘Are women physically weaker than men?’, you will find that an overwhelming percentage of answers say yes. In general, women are physically weaker, they are anatomically different. It is no secret that our world is broken – it is imperative that we seek to share truth at every opportunity. It has become vogue for women to decide they are men and men to decide they are woman. Society, in their own demise, has coined a practice called gender reassignment; we ignore God’s perfect plan of creation and have instituted our own. Part of the process of a woman becoming a man, at least physically, is to pump her full of testosterone. Testosterone is the “key male sex hormone that regulates fertility, muscle mass, fat distribution, and red blood cell production”, according to MedicalNewsToday. All this to say, we know there is a difference between sexes, and we know that men are generally larger and stronger. This is not a ‘put down’, it is a fact. On average, women are smaller – they are shorter and weigh less. Consider why there are separate national sports leagues for men and women, and why they compete in most Olympic games separately, having teams of men and teams of women.

Does being a weaker vessel mean woman are incapable?

Not at all! Both male and female are vessels for God’s glory. Think! Do you consider less of a child because they are physically weaker than an adult? Of course not, it is expected because they are a child. How about someone with a disability who cannot perform the same tasks as others? It is acceptable that we are weaker than others in some areas. Any strength we do have either physical, moral, or emotional, comes from God. Whatever is accomplished by us is because of God.

2Corinthians 4:7 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the surpassing greatness of the power may be of God and not from ourselves;

2Corinthians 12:9 And He has said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness." Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.

God did create male and female differences – biologically we are different, our hormones are different, and we have been given different roles in the area of reproduction. Men and women, in general, are also different in the way they think, how information is processed and related.

Think again about a vessel and its purpose. From the Greek word skeuos, it is an implement, equipment, or apparatus – “specially, a wife as contributing to the usefulness of the husband”. This supports the truth that each gender has been created for specific roles. Neither is more important; however they function differently with unique abilities. Consider how sports teams are organized. Each player has a specific position and purpose. If they all work together, they are successful. Some positions are seemingly unimportant, yet without their cooperation and contribution, the team would not do as well.

God is the one who set up the team of husband and wife. Look back to Ephesians 5:22-33. Therefore, He knows how we work best together for His glory.

Consider this example. I want to plant something in my garden, I need to dig a hole, and I have a hose and a trowel available to use. What would I use?

Obviously, I would use the trowel to dig a hole. Does it make the hose any less important? Of course not, in fact without the water delivered from the hose, my garden would die. Both are necessary to accomplish the goal; they are used differently but work together and are equally important to the success of my garden.

Our last few studies in 1Peter 3 have specifically addressed roles in marriage. What if you are single? How does this text apply? Being single does not mean a person is incomplete or missing out on something. In fact, remaining single has its own strengths and opportunities. Each of us are to set our eyes on Jesus to accomplish His will in our life. Some He has destined to marry; some He has destined to singleness. Both relationships, if founded in Christ, will glorify Him. Contentment whether we are married or single, for whatever reason, will cause us to trust God for His direction.

1Corinthians 7:8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I.

Whatever relationship we are in, servant, master, single, or married, we are to walk according to God’s commands seeking to please Him through our obedience.

1Corinthians 7:17 Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let him walk. And thus I direct in all the churches.

In 1Peter 3:7, we read another role of husband to wife is to grant her honor. Honor, time (tee-may’), gives something value; it means a high degree of esteem. This word is also used to describe something as precious, as in having high worth or being treasured. Each of us is to regard others as God’s creation, having value because of Him.

1Peter 2:17 Honor all men; love the brotherhood, fear God, honor the king.

Husbands are reminded that their role is to protect, care for, and lead their wives. We have different roles but the same reality in Christ – fellow heirs of the grace of life – God’s riches, His forgiveness through Christ, His promise of a future with Him. Race, gender, age, abilities, and so forth, may separate our roles or importance in an earthly sense. However, in Christ, we are heirs of the same riches of eternal life.

Ephesians 3:6 [to be specific], that the Gentiles are fellow heirs and fellow members of the body, and fellow partakers of the promise in Christ Jesus through the gospel,

Titus 3:7 that being justified by His grace we might be made heirs according to [the] hope of eternal life.

The husbands’ instruction is to live in an understanding way, and to grant honor to his wife as someone who shares in the same standing in Christ – so that his prayers may not be hindered. The intent is that through obedience of the heart, the husband is right with God. As he seeks to live in an understanding way with his wife, honoring her as a fellow heir of Christ, he will be blessed. Obedience, understanding, care, and honor, are universal to all relationships in the body of Christ. Christ died for all; each life bowed before Him is precious.

Psalm 66:18 If I regard wickedness in my heart, the Lord will not hear;

John 9:31 "We know that God does not hear sinners; but if anyone is God-fearing and does His will, He hears him.

Psalm 145:18 The LORD is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth.

In a marriage relationship, there is the blessing of co-laboring as husband and wife towards the same end. Right leadership of a husband requires the heart of a servant. Sin, in any form or thought, will hinder, or exscind, prayer.

Ephesians 4:29- 32 Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such [a word] as is good for edification according to the need [of the moment,] that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

1Peter 3:7 is an exhortation specifically to husbands, yet we can apply these principals in a general sense regardless of our specific role in life.

We can live in an understanding way with those in our lives. This might require showing more grace and forgiveness, developing a heart of compassion and care, accepting the strengths and weaknesses of others, seeking at all times to be an encouragement to others in their relationship with Christ.
If we are married, we can help our husband fulfill his role by willingly following his lead. We can show gratitude through our words and actions for his efforts to care for us. We can accept with joy that God has appointed our husband as head of our family. Ladies, if you are married the single most important thing you can do for your husband is to faithfully pray for his relationship to grow in the Lord. Then trust that God is working in both of your lives. If you are single, you can encourage your friends who are married to submit to their husband.

We all have authority to submit to in relationships, and each individual answers to the ultimate authority of Christ. You can purposefully choose an attitude of submission towards those in leadership over you. You can promote peace by concentrating on being a woman who honors God in all things.

Growing in Holiness

What good is great accomplishment or an aesthetically pleasing outside if the heart within is in disarray?

1Peter 3:1-6 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any [of them] are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. And let not your adornment be [merely] external--braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but [let it be] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

Verse five assigns a general example of wives submitting to their husbands, and verse six gives a specific example. The Apostle teaches the preference of a beautiful heart over beautiful looks, reminding women what is the most pleasing to God.

Examples of the past are a useful tool. Consider how important your example might be to those following after you – children, grandchildren, friends, and family. Will they see a heart desiring to honor Jesus? These women are described as holy, hopeful, and submissive. Holiness must come first – a heart yielded to God – this produces hope in His promises and a desire to humbly obey His truths.

Holy – from hagios, means to be morally blameless. A heart which is righteous or holy, is one that follows Jesus. It is a heart yielded to Him out of gratitude for grace and mercy shown at the cross.

Only God can make a heart holy. Yet we have work to do to. Look at the scriptures below. What habits or qualities are seen in those who seek holiness?

Colossians 3:12-13 And so, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.

Romans 12:1 I urge you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, [which is] your spiritual service of worship.

Take a closer look at some of the words in the above verses.

Compassion – inward affection and tender mercies; a deep awareness of and sympathy for another’s suffering

Kindness – usefulness, gentleness, goodness; warmhearted, considerate, sympathetic

Humility – of mind; a lack of false pride; no need for recognition; looking to others as being more important than oneself

Gentleness – meekness, humility; mild, even-tempered, softness

Patience – longsuffering, fortitude; a good-natured tolerance of delay or incompetence

Forbearance – endurance; a delay in enforcing rights, claims, or privileges, patience

Forgiveness – graciousness, kindness; compassion that supports a willingness to forgive; the act of excusing a mistake or offense

Sacrifice – surrendering personal ‘rights’, likes, or desires

Service – worship; work which benefits another; help, assistance; to fulfill a purpose, role, or function; to devote one’s life or efforts

These words are not a checklist to complete and then feel good about oneself. Pleasing God begins in your heart devotion to Him. These qualities or habits are developed as we seek to follow God.

John 17:17 "Sanctify them in the truth; Thy word is truth.

Sanctify is derived from the same root word as holy. Holiness comes from the truth; our responsibility is to seek to know and understand God’s word.

1Peter 1:22 Since you have in obedience to the truth purified your souls for a sincere love of the brethren, fervently love one another from the heart,

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, [But] a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

1Timothy 2:9-10 Likewise, [I want] women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments; but rather by means of good works, as befits women making a claim to godliness.

Look again at the text. “For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God”. Hope means to expect or trust. This expectation is more than wishful thinking. It is to consider that something is likely to happen. Hope in God places trust in Him that He does what He says, He fulfills His promises. Consider God’s testimony to us in His written word. It is alive with His miraculous power and wonder! There is no limit to our hope; there is no limit to God’s power. My favorite definition of miracles comes from a children’s song, “to anticipate the inevitable, supernatural, intervention of God”. Past holy women sought the importance of developing the characteristics spoken of in 1Peter 3:5. They adorned themselves with a gentle and quiet spirit – and this was seen in their humble submission to their own husbands.

“…used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands”. The world is clamoring for our attention, we are encouraged to be like everyone else, and to embrace all philosophies. However, our primary concern should be to develop those inner qualities that have lasting value. Women today are encouraged to follow their own desires and ambitions first, before thinking of others. Words of self are touted, “This is my time”, and “This is for me”. What good is great accomplishment or an aesthetically pleasing outside if the heart within is in disarray? And even beyond and more importantly, whose time is it and for what purpose?

Verse 6 continues to impress submission out of obedience to the Lord and moves on to the more specific example of Sarah. It says, “Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord”. She willingly chose to listen to him, to take heed to his authority. This does not mean she was inferior in her abilities; it does not mean she could not think for herself, or she did not have important responsibilities and goals; it does mean she loved God and therefore was obedient to God’s will. She showed her husband respect by calling him lord. “The word lord has the elementary idea of ruling, and this is the sense here – that she acknowledged that he had a right to direct the affairs of his household, and that it was her duty to be in subjection to him as the head of the family”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary. This is not to say that married woman today should be addressing their husbands as lord. In the time period and place this was written, it was quite common for married woman to address their husbands in this manner. What we can take from this is having an attitude of respect for one’s husband in his position of leadership.

Do you willingly place yourself under the subjection of your husband if you are married, and others who are in authority? Do you encourage those you know to do the same?

Verse 6 uses Sarah as an example to follow. She was not perfect, no one is, but she trusted in God’s promises and is mentioned in the text of Hebrews 11 along with the ‘heroes of faith’.

Hebrews 11:11 By faith even Sarah herself received ability to conceive, even beyond the proper time of life, since she considered Him faithful who had promised;

We can emulate her faith in obedience no matter the circumstances which surround us.

“…and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear”. In becoming ‘her children’, this may refer to being the heirs of Abraham in Genesis 21. Think of this as being spiritual daughters rather than daughters according to the flesh.

Genesis 21:12 But God said to Abraham, "Do not be distressed because of the lad and your maid; whatever Sarah tells you, listen to her, for through Isaac your descendants shall be named.

Galatians 3:29 And if you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham's offspring, heirs according to promise.

Notice the expected condition – “…if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear”.

We have an example in Sarah of acting upon her fears in Genesis 18:15, Sarah denied [it] however, saying, “I did not laugh”; for she was afraid. And He said, “No, but you did laugh.” Because she was afraid, she denied the truth. We will also fail simply because we are human, yet the determination needs to be that of full obedience to God.

“They were to do well; to be faithful to their husbands; to be firm in their principles; to adhere steadfastly to what was true and good, whatever trials they might pass through, however much they might be threatened with persecution, or however any might attempt to deter them from the performance of their duty. Thus, by a life of Christian fidelity, unawed by fear from any quarter, they would show that they were imbued with the same principles of unbending virtue which characterised the wife of the father of the faithful, and that they were not unworthy to be regarded as her daughters”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

Compare:

1Peter 3:13-14 And who is there to harm you if you prove zealous for what is good? But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, [you are] blessed. AND DO NOT FEAR THEIR INTIMIDATION, AND DO NOT BE TROUBLED,

Isaiah 8:13 "It is the LORD of hosts whom you should regard as holy. And He shall be your fear, and He shall be your dread.

1Peter 4:12-13 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you; but to the degree that you share the sufferings of Christ, keep on rejoicing; so that also at the revelation of His glory, you may rejoice with exultation.

In a yielded and steadfast heart, there is security in obedience to God. When trouble arises, we can pray instead of panic as we rely upon God’s intervention. Remember Peter’s audience – in general it was to all believers in respect to all authority; specifically it was to wives whose husbands were unbelievers. In situations of submission, we need to uphold our loyalty to God’s truths. Fear of displeasing men should not guide our actions. Recall the account of steadfast obedience in Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego in Daniel Chapter 3. Now remember the account of Peter’s fearful denial in Matthew 26:69-75.

Proverbs 3:25-26 Do not be afraid of sudden fear, nor of the onslaught of the wicked when it comes; for the LORD will be your confidence, and will keep your foot from being caught.

1Peter 2:15 For such is the will of God that by doing right you may silence the ignorance of foolish men.

Also remember the beginning of this chapter in 1Peter verses 1 and 2 which correlated holy behavior as a tool in drawing others to know Jesus.

Do you allow the threat of inconvenience or danger to affect your obedience to Truth? How can you combat this?

Are you considering the ornamentation of your heart to be more important than your outside appearance? What steps are you taking to grow in your understanding and trust of God?

Even in those cases where you may be exposed to ill-treatment, are you willing to trust God’s wisdom and promises?

Let’s pray that God increases our desire to grow in His holiness.

The Hidden Person of the Heart

When we are settled in Christ, there are no threats, no ‘flying off the handle’, no anguished verbal outbursts, or unpredictable behaviors. There is no sense of giving up or quitting when circumstances become difficult. Rather there is a quiet resolve to continue forward in His strength for His purpose.

In our last study, we looked at the importance of our behavior through our conversation and actions. Now, we look at the heart – the center from which our behavior stems.

1Peter 3:3-4 And let not your adornment be [merely] external--braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but [let it be] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

First, we need to appreciate the culture in which these words were written. Most of us do not wear braids or have bangles of gold covering our arms and ankles. And while it used to be that women wore dresses all the time, this is not the expectation today.

“This was a warning against the extravagant fashions in hair-dressing and decoration with costly jewels, prevailing among the Greeks and Romans at that period; also a reminder that the true adornment is from within”, Teacher’s Commentary.

“Plaiting the hair, and variously folding it about the head, was the most ancient and most simple mode of disposing of this chief ornament of the female head. It was practised anciently in every part of the east, and is so to the present day in India, in China, and also in Barbary. It was also prevalent among the Greeks and Romans, as ancient gems, busts, and statues, still remaining, sufficiently declare. We have a remarkable instance of the plaiting of the hair in a statue of Agrippina, wife of Germanicus, an exact representation of which may be seen in a work of Andre Lens, entitled Le Costume de Peuple de I' Antiquite”, Adam Clarke’s Commentary.

Often, thin plates of gold, pearls, and small pieces of jewelry were incorporated into the braids or plaits. “There is a remarkable passage in Plutarch, Conjugalia Praecept., c. xxvi., … “An ornament, as Crates said, is that which adorns. The proper ornament of a woman is that which becomes her best. This is neither gold, nor pearls, nor scarlet; but those things which are an evident proof of gravity, regularity, and modesty." The wife of Phocion, a celebrated Athenian general, receiving a visit from a lady who was elegantly adorned with gold and jewels, and her hair with pearls, took occasion to call the attention of her guest to the elegance and costliness of her dress, remarking at the same time, "My ornament is my husband, now for the twentieth year general of the Athenians." Plut., in vit. Phoc. How few Christian women act this part! Women are in general at as much pains and cost in their dress, as if by it they were to be recommended both to God and man. It is, however, in every case, the argument either of a shallow mind, or of a vain and corrupted heart”, (late 1800’s).

The comments above may seem a bit strong, but the principal is that we can spend an enormous amount of time on our looks all the while neglecting the beauty of our heart. In the culture at the time the Apostle Peter was writing, the outside appearance had become the picture of value and importance, thus the need for his warning. We can see this in past history as well as present day examples.

In the above quote it says, ‘my ornament is my husband’. It is nice to read that looks were not the ultimate value however, as much as I love my husband, I would argue to say, “my ornament is Christ”. He alone is whom I represent, whom I live for, and whom I desire to please in all things. The concern then was the value placed on outside adornment rather than the inside heart. The call was to remember no matter how beautiful the outside appeared the inside was infinitely more important.

Romans 12:2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.

Are you more concerned of how you look to others or how you represent Christ to others?

Is it wrong then to look nice – Of course not! One commentary suggests looking around you. The colors of the sky, the flowers, etc. Notice the variation in the animals and colors and plumage of birds. God has made all His creation beautiful. He has painted amazing colors into the sunsets and mountainsides. He has made each individual person unique and in His image. Consider however the adornment of lips. What good are beautifully tinted lips if the words coming out of them do not bless? Or beautifully made-up eyes if what is sought to be seen is harmful?

Take a moment and consider your last week. Compare the time spent on your outside appearance and the attention spent on your inside growth. Your internal soul is of greater value than your external show. “But the allusion here is to the excessive care which then prevailed, and especially to their setting the heart on such ornaments rather than on the adorning which is internal. It may not be easy to fix the exact limit of propriety about the method of arranging the hair, or about any other ornament; but those whose hearts are right, generally have little difficulty on the subject. Every ornament of the body, however beautiful, is soon to be laid aside; the adorning of the soul will endure for ever”, Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

Consider what will last. It is obvious to me that my outside appearance is aging. When we are in our twenties and thirties it is difficult to imagine we will ever get old or have wrinkly or sagging skin. Well, if you are not into spending exorbitant amounts of money on face lifts and ‘miracle’ products, avoidance of your outside deterioration is impossible. The hope is that as your outside matures – this sounds nicer than getting old – your inside is maturing as well. And when your soul matures, it becomes increasingly beautiful! We want to be dazzling on the inside for Christ!

2Corinthians 4:16 Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day.

Is your inside shining for Christ?

What distinguishes you, what do you seek most?

This is not a call to wear turtlenecks and skirts down to the floor! It is a call to be certain you are adorned with those things that bring glory to God. You have probably heard the expression, ‘it’s not what it seems to be’. We use this when something we expected – usually because of its outside appearance – does not live up to its promise. These words can be applied to many scenarios. Perhaps you have been house hunting at one point and are excited to see the inside of that well-kept adorable home. The expectation is the outside will be an example of what you find inside, only to be disappointed at the extreme disarray and unkempt interior. How often have you thought or said, ‘well, it looks legitimate’, and found out otherwise? I am certain many of you have purchased an item that was packaged and promoted well only to open that package and see it was not at all what you expected. What additional examples can you think of?

We should not ignore our appearance; it is something to consider. Cleanliness, and presenting oneself as approachable, are a plus in building relationships and sharing the Gospel. For example, it would be a tragedy to have the opportunity to share truth with someone yet the whole while I am explaining the Gospel, they are fixated on the broccoli stuck in my teeth, or the cleavage spilling out of my shirt – you get the picture! I will not get very far if I approach someone while looking like a wild, scary person!

By all means, take the time to make yourself presentable. But let’s not make our appearance our focus; the outside cannot be a cover for the true beauty of our heart. The attention needs to be on God rather than ourselves.

One commentary says the Apostle here speaks not of forbidding a type of dress and adorning but the “pride and vanity, affectation and ostentation, in wearing them. … God will have the hidden man of your heart adorned with grace, and delights more to see that, than your bodies adorned with precious jewels and costly apparel”, Burkitt.

What is referred to above is the flaunting of oneself for attention and to gain importance and attract admiration. Consider this thought, the outside will eventually perish; only the inside person of the heart will remain. If we are led to extravagance in anything, let it be in our pursuit of Christ. Seeking His truths can never be in excess.

Are you neglecting the inward care of your heart for your outward appearance?

1Peter 3:4 but [let it be] the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

My looks are greatly improved with makeup! In fact, as I get older, the change when I wear make-up becomes more drastic. I don’t ‘do my face’ every day but I like to ‘put my face on’ when I have plans outside my home. There are those times when I must decide to forfeit my looks in lieu of getting somewhere on time. This is not because of great holiness though; it is because I did not plan my time well! But, when a decision does need to be made and I only have so much time before I must leave my house, am I willing to spend it in the word rather than myself? Take a moment to consider your busy schedule. How often have you said you did not have time to pray, or read, or study the Truth? Yet, you found time to accomplish other things. For myself, I constantly need to check my priorities and often rearrange them so that I am giving God my best and not neglecting the study of His Word to me. This question came to mind – am I padded well with God’s truths or am I flimsily clad? If I am padded well, the world will have little affect; however if my covering is superficial, the slightest breeze or change will leave me exposed.

Contrary to outside adornment which will decay, let’s concentrate on the immortal part of our being, our soul which will last forever. We are to clothe our inside with humility and meekness, and with piety and prudence, in order to esteem God. The best ornaments are those of the heart which draw others into the knowledge and understanding of God. We must consider where our true affections are placed. If we are saved, we have been made new to live in righteousness according to God’s word to glorify His name. This means we no longer serve sin but serve God.

The hidden person of the heart is my soul – that which only God can touch. The soul is incorruptible which is in contrast to the gold jewelry and garments spoken of in the preceding verse. The inner man referenced in the following scriptures also speak of ‘the inward self’.

Romans 7:22 For I joyfully concur with the law of God in the inner man,

Ephesians 3:16 that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man;

God is more concerned about the heart of man than the outside appearance of man.

1Samuel 16:7 But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God [sees] not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."

1Chronicles 28:9 "As for you, my son Solomon, know the God of your father, and serve Him with a whole heart and a willing mind; for the LORD searches all hearts, and understands every intent of the thoughts. If you seek Him, He will let you find Him; but if you forsake Him, He will reject you forever.

Psalm 51:6 Behold, Thou dost desire truth in the innermost being, and in the hidden part Thou wilt make me know wisdom.

The regenerated heart is to have the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit. Think of inward holiness.

The Greek term used for man (hidden person in NAS) in 1Peter 3:4 is derived, according to the best etymologists, from the words meaning, turning the face upward, (taken from Adam Clarke’s Commentary). This same commentary explains a gentle and quiet spirit, “a mind that will not give provocation to others, nor receive irritation by the provocation of others. Meekness [gentleness] will prevent the first; quietness will guard against the last”. In other words, a heart of gentleness will not easily anger others and a quiet heart will not easily become angered. This explanation makes me think of someone whose eyes are focused on Jesus. When we try to see all things in light of the forgiveness of sin and promise of heaven we have from God, our response to circumstances and people is an extension of the mercy and grace we ourselves have received.

Let’s look at the meanings of a gentle and quiet spirit.

Gentle, praus, means mild, humble, meek. Quiet, hesuchios, means keeping one’s seat, still – undisturbed, peaceable. This word is also associated with the definition of being immovable, settled, and steadfast. According to one commentary, the use of the word spirit, pneuma, in this verse is “unlike any other use in the N.T.” (Bigg, Robertson’s NT Word Pictures). It means the rational soul, or mental disposition. Think of the word temper, not in having a quick temper of anger, but rather having a disposition of gentleness and quietness.

As I consider the definitions above, a picture of someone with a humble, settled conviction of God is formed. There is no need for this person to act harshly or cause an uproar. Instead they are able to maintain a calmness in their spirit through all circumstances because they are certain of their value in Christ and His work in their life and others. They display a humbleness towards God and a peacefulness towards others. When we are settled in Christ, there are no threats, no ‘flying off the handle’, no anguished verbal outbursts, or unpredictable behaviors. There is no sense of giving up or quitting when circumstances become difficult. Rather there is a quiet resolve to continue forward in His strength for His purpose. Do you know of someone who you and others ‘tip-toe’ around because you do not want to ‘set them off’? This is the opposite of a gentle and quiet spirit.

“Of a calm temper; a contented mind; a heart free from passion, pride, envy, and irritability; a soul not subject to the agitations and vexations of those who live for fashion, and who seek to be distinguished for external adorning. The connexion here shows that the apostle refers to this, not only as that which would be of great price in the sight of God, but as that which would tend to secure the affection of their husbands, and win them to embrace the true religion”, (1Peter 3:1-2), Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary. This same reference goes on to describe these qualities as a kind temper, gentle words, placid brow, modest and patient spirit, a heart that is calm in trouble, affectionate and pure, freedom from irritability, fretfulness, and impatience.

Jesus had a gentle and humble heart. His eyes were focused on His Father’s purpose.

Matthew 11:29 "Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and YOU SHALL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS.

Do you create trouble? Are you calm in the midst of disturbances caused by others? Are you careful and peaceable in your words?

Matthew 5:5 "Blessed are the gentle, for they shall inherit the earth.

Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Ephesians 4:1-2 I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, entreat you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love,

Colossians 3:12 And so, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience;

Our desire is to please God. Developing the qualities of a gentle and quiet spirit ‘is precious in the sight of God’.

Precious, from poluteles, means extremely expensive: costly, very precious, of great price. This same word is used in the account of the woman who anointed Jesus’ head with ‘very costly’ oil.

Mark 14:3 And while He was in Bethany at the home of Simon the leper, and reclining [at the table,] there came a woman with an alabaster vial of very costly perfume of pure nard; [and] she broke the vial and poured it over His head.

She brought all she had to Jesus. Her show of care was so extravagant to those around that they called her actions a waste of money. However, she knew the truth and offered everything. Jesus did not care about the monetary value, he cared about her heart.

Our physical body is decaying. All that is in this world will perish. What will be left is the yielded heart of sinners humbly receiving God’s grace. It is in God’s sight that we are to be pleasing, not in the vanities of the world, nor the commendations of men.

Heart Submission

The importance is not so much the submission; it is the purpose of submission. Submission comes from a heart of obedience. Being submissive to God’s commands, gives glory to His deity.

We’ll concentrate on three important words – submission, conversation, and behavior. These words describe some of the characteristics of those who seek to follow Jesus. Keep this question in mind – What do others see in us?

Specifically in this case the focus is on wives, however the testimony of our love for Christ through our words and actions is universal to all God’s children. So whether you are single, divorced, married, or widowed, these principles should be applied.

1Peter 3:1-2 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any [of them] are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.

1Peter Chapter 1 listed the numerous blessings of being called by Christ to follow Him. In Him we have a certain future; we are able to have joy not based on circumstances but rather on God’s promises.

1Peter Chapter 2 introduced specific sins we are to avoid and the need for our pursuit of growth in our walk. Jesus is our solid foundation and those who follow Him are blessed. Excellent behavior and submission to authority will cause a believer to look different from the world around them. This may be difficult, yet it is desirable because God is honored by our example of His righteousness. We have God’s protection as our Shepherd; our purpose is to glorify Him in all things.

Now in 1Peter Chapter 3, the instruction of submitting to those in leadership over us continues with specific examples.

In the NAS, the first words we read are, ‘In the same way’. The KJV says, ‘Likewise’. These words refer to what has already been described in the previous chapter. The concept of submission is applied to those in governing authority (2:13), to masters (2:18), and now, in wives to their own husbands. We could also include children to parents, employers to employees, and perhaps there are other relationships you can think of where submitting to authority would apply.

The importance is not so much the submission; it is the purpose of submission. Submission comes from a heart of obedience. Being submissive to God’s commands gives glory to His deity. God knows all things therefore we can trust and obey His plan. Submission itself, as a practice, is a powerful tool in avoiding chaos. You have heard the idiom, “too many chiefs and not enough Indians”. This saying may be politically incorrect in our culture today, but it describes a picture for us of everyone wanting to be in charge and not enough people willing to do the work. Instruction gives direction, it produces order, and it encourages accomplishment of a task.

What was Jesus’ example of submission?

Matthew 26:39 And He went a little beyond [them,] and fell on His face and prayed, saying, "My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as Thou wilt."

John 6:38 "For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.

Philippians 2:8 And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

This charge to submission is not to be forced. It is a choice to place oneself under another, to become subordinate to another and obey. Forcing someone to obey is just controlling someone. Much the same as forcing someone to love – it cannot be done. The action of following commands or saying ‘I love you’ mean nothing if not from the heart. When we view ourselves as being subject to authority, we willingly surrender power to someone else. This is an act of humility – desiring to please someone else’s directive above your own. It acknowledges that perhaps others have a better understanding or more complete information.

Read Jesus’ words, ‘not as I will’. Jesus did not quit when it got difficult, He did not give up on the will of His Father, He did not decide He had a better plan, and He did not abandon His purpose or position. Instead He relied on God’s perfect plan for mankind’s redemption. He called on God’s grace and strength to complete His mission. He chose to trust in God’s plan and paid the ultimate price in giving His life. There is no account of His saying it was too hard, or others were too mean, or that He simply could not continue because He did not like what was happening. His sight was on the authority of His Father in heaven. His example is one of greatest humility. Jesus’ example is that God knows perfectly how His plan of redemption will come to fruition and to honor Him, we must obey and willingly be used by Him for His glory.

In Chapter 2 of this book, we read that in the case of governing authorities and masters of all kinds we are to submit. Similarly, wives are to submit themselves to their husbands. This act of willful obedience recognizes the important role of a husband to lead as the rightful head of the family.

Ephesians 5:21-24 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ. Wives, [be subject] to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself [being] the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives [ought to be] to their husbands in everything.

1Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.

Colossians 3:18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

1Peter 3:1 speaks mainly to wives with an unbelieving husband, however the principle to submit remains the same in application to those whose husbands believe. You may be thinking that because you are widowed or single, the understanding of this truth is not applicable or lacks importance for you. I would disagree. How do you encourage your married friends and family? Are you respectful of their relationships? It also might be tempting to spend more time with your friend who is a believer than your husband who is not. What would God have you do?

Think of this simple word picture of walking a dog. How difficult is it to leash a dog and walk it if it is pulling and grunting and fighting every step of the way? When our French bulldog Lily, was a puppy, we would try to take her on walks – notice the word try – and always a few blocks into our walk she would simply lay down, sometimes in the middle of crossing a street, and refuse to take another step. The choice at that point was to leave her, drag her, or carry her the rest of the way. Although this is a silly example it does convey the difficulty to those in charge when we refuse to submit.

Do we encourage leadership by supporting those in charge or do we make it difficult, always pushing our own directives as more important?

Willful submission encourages those in authority. In addition, this behavior also has the potential of gaining approval. Our verse says ‘be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any [of them] are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives’.

“The apostle next gave directions concerning the duties of wives and husbands, as a matter of great importance to the credit and success of the gospel. In general, wives were commanded to be “subject to their own husbands;” and even they who were married to Gentiles or other unbelievers, whether they had been converted since their marriage, or had sinfully brought themselves into so trying a situation, ought to obey this commandment in all things lawful ... This must be attended to in a conscientious manner; not only in order to lighten their own trial and to “adorn the gospel,” but with an especial aim at the conversion of their husbands; which was not so much to be expected from a disputatious attempt to teach them the gospel, as from the silent persuasive eloquence of a becoming deportment. Thus the wives might hope to win upon those who did not obey the word, but treated it with contempt and neglect; as the constant, obliging, amiable conduct, and prudent discourse of such near relatives, would tend to soften their prejudices and conciliate their affections; and so induce them to pay more attention to the preaching of the gospel”, Thomas Scott.

1Corinthians 7:16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

1Corinthians 9:19 For though I am free from all [men,] I have made myself a slave to all, that I might win the more.

Ephesians 5:1-2 Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you, and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.

Colossians 4:5 Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity.

Proverbs 11:30 The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, and he who is wise wins souls.

Titus 2:3-5 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips, nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, [to be] sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be dishonored.

Note, submission is not based on whether it is easy, acknowledged, or appreciated. Rather, it is based on our love and obedience to God. Circumstances should not be the sole dictator of our actions; instead, God’s love for us and our gratefulness to Him, should cause our willful subjection to authority.

The act of submitting to those in authority, and especially to one’s husband, is considered archaic and even oppressive in our culture today. This is not a popular or accepted ideal. This means we will look different than those around us who do not know Jesus as their Lord and Savior. By our unusual example, perhaps we will have the opportunity to share truth.

Galatians 1:10 For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.

Proverbs 16:7 When a man's ways are pleasing to the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.

Hebrews 13:20-21 Now the God of peace, who brought up from the dead the great Shepherd of the sheep through the blood of the eternal covenant, [even] Jesus our Lord, equip you in every good thing to do His will, working in us that which is pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom [be] the glory forever and ever. Amen.

Does my conduct influence those around me, specifically my unbelieving husband if applicable, to desire the very thing that causes my pleasing acceptance of their leadership?

Is my example godly or worldly?

Consider how the behavior and words of others affect you either negatively or positively. We can be drawn towards another and more readily listen to them and observe them with interest. Or we can be repulsed by someone’s actions, wanting nothing to do with their philosophies.

Read Paul’s account of humility in his letter to the church at Philippi.

Philippians 3:7-8 But whatever things were gain to me, those things I have counted as loss for the sake of Christ. More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish in order that I may gain Christ,

1Peter 1:17-19 And if you address as Father the One who impartially judges according to each man's work, conduct yourselves in fear during the time of your stay [upon earth]; knowing that you were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold from your futile way of life inherited from your forefathers, but with precious blood, as of a lamb unblemished and spotless, [the blood] of Christ.

Fear and reverence of God will result in subjection to obedience towards your own husband and towards those placed in authority. We are called to share the Gospel when we speak; we are called to exemplify the Gospel through our behavior.

1Peter 3:2 as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.

Whether we like it or not, whether we admit others are affected by our words and actions, the reality is others do watch. Consider a child imitating their parent or an employee watching the example of their employer. We may not be responsible entirely for someone else's decisions however we must realize that our example does absolutely affect others. For this, we are responsible!

The word observe used in 1Peter 3:2 can be translated to inspect, to watch, to behold. When we inspect something, we look at it carefully, we check for accuracy and verification of its source. In this case, the unbelieving husband pays attention to his wife’s behavior. He can either be drawn towards her beliefs or pushed away from them. There is no guarantee that excellent behavior will draw him in however we never want to be the one whose inconsistencies deter someone away from the Gospel. In the same principle, we never want to be the cause for confusion in a believer’s life.

The wife in this scripture is called to be chaste or pure in her example, morally upright. She is called to be respectful in her behavior and conversation. Back up to the second Chapter of 1Peter for a moment and recall its words –

1Peter 2:12 Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may on account of your good deeds, as they observe [them,] glorify God in the day of visitation.

Ephesians Chapter 5

Ephesians 5:33 commands a wife to respect or revere her husband.

Is all your conversation and behavior filtered through your reverence for God?

Are you mindful of your words and actions towards those in authority?

Are you emulating Jesus’ example of humility in all circumstances?

“The trait of character which is referred to is that of proper respect and reverence in all the relations which she sustained, as opposed to a trifling and frivolous mind. Leighton suggests that the word fear here relates particularly to the other duty enjoined--that of chaste conversation--"fearing the least stain of chastity, or the very appearance of anything not suiting with it. It is a delicate, timorous grace, afraid of the least air, or shadow of anything that hath but a resemblance of wronging it, in carriage, or speech, or apparel", Albert Barnes’ NT Commentary.

What does God say about our conversation?

1Peter 1:15 But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation; KJV

Philippians 1:27 Only let your conversation be as it becometh the gospel of Christ: that whether I come and see you, or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs, that ye stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel; KJV

1Timothy 4:12 Let no one look down on your youthfulness, but [rather] in speech, conduct, love, faith [and] purity, show yourself an example of those who believe.

Our call is to submit regardless of the circumstances, in the hope that our example may represent Christ’s righteousness and draw those around us to desire to know Him. Our behavior and conversation can be used as a valuable tool in encouraging others in Christ. Our submission acknowledges God’s deity, His power, and His right to rule over all.

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