Honoring God With Our Speech

Does your understanding come from God’s holy word? Do your lips speak of His truths? Is He honored by your speech?

1Peter 4:11 Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the utterances of God;​​ whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belongs the glory and dominion forever and ever. ​​ Amen.

Previously, in Chapter 4, Peter had reminded his brothers and sisters in Christ to live for the will of God, using Christ as their example. ​​ Last time we were in this section of scripture, we read verses 8-10. ​​ Peter gave some direct instructions in these verses –

Keep fervent in your love for one another (v.8),

Be hospitable to one another (v.9), and

Serve one another using the gifts God has given (v.10).

Peter had finished with the command to serve one another with whatever gifts they had. ​​ Now, he specifically addresses our speech and ministry to others. ​​​​ We will look at the first part of​​ verse eleven in this study.

Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the utterances of God.

Speaking includes talking, teaching, and preaching;​​ basically,​​ anytime you open your mouth. ​​ Most commentaries agree this instruction is more specifically directed towards teachers and preachers;​​ however,​​ this does not mean if you are not teaching, you are off the hook with your speech! ​​ But if you do teach there is an even greater responsibility to be careful to represent the Word correctly. ​​ We are to be careful​​ with​​ how we represent God’s word in all circumstances.

Think of your own speech. ​​ According to several sources, women speak an average of 16,000 to over 20,000 words per day, in some cases up to 25,000! ​​ Consider how many of your words are spoken from a heart which represents Christ. ​​ Our every utterance does not need to be a quote from the Bible, but it does mean that we are mindful to assess our words; that they encourage others in Truth. ​​ Kind and careful words can bless, while careless words​​ can harm and​​ discourage.

Colossians 4:2-6 Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving;​​ praying at the same time for us as well, that God will open up to us a door for the word,​​ so that we may speak forth the mystery of Christ, for which I have also been imprisoned; that I may make it clear in the way I ought to speak. ​​ Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. ​​ Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt,​​ so that you will know how you should respond to each person.

Grace-filled speech results from God’s influence upon our heart. ​​ It is a reflection of His​​ work in our lives. ​​ The book of Colossians was written by Paul to the church towards the end of his first imprisonment in Rome. ​​ Prayer was instrumental in his​​ own​​ ministry​​ and​​ that of others. ​​ In the verse above, notice his prayer was for the purpose of sharing Truth. ​​ He asked that his words be filled with the mystery of Christ, and that his words would be sensitive to those who would hear. ​​ He reminded the church to use wisdom in how they responded to each person. ​​ 

Titus 2:1-8 But as for you,​​ speak the things which are fitting for sound doctrine.​​ ​​ Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in​​ perseverance. ​​ Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands,​​ so that the word of God will not be dishonored. ​​​​ Likewise urge the young men to be sensible; in all things show yourself to be an example of good deeds, with purity in doctrine, dignified,​​ sound in speech which is beyond reproach, so that the opponent will be put to shame, having nothing bad to say about us.

The book of Titus was written by Paul to Titus who was most likely converted to Christianity by Paul’s ministry. ​​ These were Paul’s instructions to Titus and the church. ​​ Look at the emphasis placed on speech. ​​ Make sure your words represent truth from the Bible; not being a slanderer but teaching what is right. ​​ We can only speak what we know and understand. ​​ It is so important for each believer to search God’s word for direction.

Think! ​​​​ Does your understanding come from God’s holy word? ​​ Do your lips speak of His truths? ​​ Is He honored by your speech?

Psalm 34:13 Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.

David wrote these words when he had fled from Saul’s persecution to Gath. ​​ King Achish’s servants recognized David to be the one who killed Goliath, so David acted like he was insane to protect himself. ​​ Then David escaped to the cave of Adullam in Palestine. ​​ All the while, throughout his fleeing for safety, the Psalmist was still more concerned with honoring God. ​​ He knew God was his protection, and living in righteousness was his goal. ​​ In Psalm 34:13, he addresses the area of speech – keep your speech from evil, from mischief, from deceit.

Recognize, the rules do not change dependent on the circumstances. ​​ It is easy to use kind and encouraging words when someone is pleasant toward you. ​​ What happens when someone is inconsiderate or just mean with their words? ​​ Do you then revert to unprofitable communication? ​​ 

Consider. ​​​​ Do you need to share everything? ​​​​ Do your words seek to damage another? ​​ What is the result when you are not careful with your words? ​​ ​​​​ Others are hurt, slandered, injured, and discouraged. ​​ Conveying someone else’s faults or shortcomings to another person, only seeks to pull down another while making yourself look better. ​​ Psalm 34:13 says​​ keep your lips from speaking deceit; add to this flattery and false promises. ​​ Say what you mean with careful restraint, be certain your words are true and necessary. ​​ Always have the goal of encouraging another in holiness. ​​ We need to hold our tongues!  ​​​​ There is a saying, ‘bite your tongue’. ​​ This is an idiom which means to stop yourself from saying something that might upset somebody or cause an argument. ​​ 

If your relationship with God is right, your speech will be righteous.

In other words, if you are being conformed to the image of His Son through Jesus’ death and resurrection, desiring to be used by Him, seeking to carefully follow His commands, then your words will be characterized by His holiness.​​ 

Read this commentary on Psalm 34:13. “Keep thy tongue from evil. ​​​​ Guard with careful diligence that dangerous member, the tongue, lest it utter evil, for that evil will recoil upon thee, and mar the enjoyment of thy life. ​​ Men cannot spit forth poison without feeling some of the venom burning their own flesh. ​​ And thy lips from speaking guile. ​​​​ Deceit must be very earnestly avoided by the man who desires happiness. ​​ A crafty schemer lives like a spy in the enemy's camp, in constant fear of exposure and execution. ​​ Clean and honest conversation, by keeping the conscience at ease, promotes happiness, but lying and wicked talk stuffs our pillow with thorns, and makes life a constant whirl of fear and shame”,​​ Treasury of David.

Don’t miss the illustration above. ​​ Try stuffing your pillow at night with thorns and see how restful your sleep may be!

Matthew 12:35-37 "The good man brings out of his good treasure what is good; and the evil man brings out of his evil treasure what is evil. ​​ "But I tell you that every careless word that people speak, they shall give an accounting for it in the day of judgment. ​​ "For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned."

Careless words are those that are useless, idle, and have no real purpose. ​​ They are based on trivial matters, and often unwarranted. ​​ Careless words lack a sense of restraint and responsibility.

James 1:19 This you know, my beloved brethren. ​​ But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;

We are to be ready to listen and understand – we cannot be good listeners if we are always interrupting; we are to be slow to speak – this is the opposite of being quick to respond; it​​ does​​ mean taking the time to ponder what is being shared and then being careful to base your reply on Truth. ​​ We are to be slow to judge – not quick in assessing wrong-doing or fast in our reaction towards another, instead we are to be ‘dull’ or soft, not responding from emotions, but rather from gentleness. ​​ If only we would seek to see others through the eyes of Jesus!

James 3:5-6 So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. ​​ See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! ​​ And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell.

This is a strong warning! ​​ Consider how quickly forest fires spread and the destruction left behind.  ​​​​ Our speech can spread information to others which can either bless or destroy.  ​​​​ We need to be willing to ask ourselves what our purpose is, in sharing information about another person or circumstance. ​​ Are we spreading something that will hurt someone’s character? ​​ Are we conveying thoughts about a situation that have no merit or fact? ​​ Are you careful with the source of your information? ​​ It is not always necessary or profitable to share how others may have hurt or injured you.

1Peter 2:1-3 Therefore, putting aside all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander, like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation, if you have tasted the kindness of the Lord.

According to the verse above, where​​ should​​ our attention be given?

Speaking the utterances of God. ​​​​ What is the content of your speech? ​​ Are your words grounded in God’s Holy Scripture? ​​ Does your speech represent God? ​​ It may be prudent to consider the message you are trying to get across when you open your mouth. ​​ This​​ is important​​ for those who might be preaching or teaching,​​ and​​ for all those who claim to follow Jesus. ​​ Our words matter! ​​ Think! ​​ Would you speak the same if​​ everyone​​ were listening? ​​ Would your words change if God were standing next to you? ​​​​ HE IS.

 

Milquetoast

I would propose that none of us have ever come close to the rejection and persecution of Paul. Yet we have assimilated several “acceptable” excuses to be much less bold – milquetoast.

It’s Interesting. ​​ We can be so concerned about what others may think of us that it gives cause to be meek and mild regarding sin, or to be low-key and quiet about our faith. ​​ How many​​ times have I thought to myself that I should say something, bring up Truth, but don’t because I will be thought of as pushy or weird. ​​ Often, I do move forward with talk of Jesus, but often this is only after I have tested the waters and I’m reasonably​​ sure I won’t receive a negative reaction.​​ I am bothered by my lack of boldness in some situations. ​​ Perhaps the reader can relate.

Are we as afraid of being offensive to our God as we are to others?​​ ​​ I wonder how it would change​​ things in the lives of believers if they were to develop more of the mindset we see in Paul.

Ac 20:24 "But I do not consider my life of any account as dear to myself, in order that I may finish my course, and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify solemnly of the gospel of the grace of God.

So what if someone doesn’t like what you believe! ​​ I’m not proposing an in your face approach because that may come off as being prideful,​​ and may shut down the conversation before it has a chance​​ to begin. ​​ I do believe we need to be genuinely interested and sincere with others. But I am considering that we, believers in general, have learned to be so sensitive to offending others that we have accepted a form of social quietness about God. ​​ However, when I read about the lives of the apostles, there is no such consideration. ​​ 

Instead of waiting upon most opportunities to share the Truth, opportunities were made. ​​ People​​ expected​​ that they would hear about God when they saw Paul.​​ 

What has happened?! ​​ What do others expect when they see us? ​​ What kind of conversations can they count on? ​​ 

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Several years ago, a movie titled ‘My Big Fat Greek Wedding’ was released. ​​ A word used in that film seems to describe my concern perfectly: ​​ Milk Toast. ​​ This is​​ how the bride’s Dad described her betrothed. ​​ Milk toast, no backbone. ​​ Dictionary.com states that a person who is “milk-toast” is an ineffectual, timid person. ​​ In my searching, I came across this​​ spelling of the word: ​​ Milquetoast, meaning a very timid, unassertive, spineless person. ​​ Answers.com​​ explains that this word comes from a comic strip character, Casper Milquetoast, who exhibited the characteristics of being timid, meek and unassertive. ​​ Wikipedia says Caspar Milquetoast was a comic strip character created by​​ H. T. Webster​​ for his cartoon series​​ The Timid Soul.​​ This character was given the name Milquetoast as a nod to the popular food prepared in the early 1900’s for children, the sickly and the aging,​​ because of its bland taste and soft texture. ​​ The recipe simply calls for toasted bread set in a dish of milk, sometimes sprinkled with sugar and/or cinnamon.

When it comes to the Gospel,​​ or addressing sin,​​ I don’t want to exhibit the characteristics listed above! ​​ I definitely want no part in being​​ Milquetoast. ​​ Paul says ‘he did not consider his life of any account as dear to himself’. ​​ Give me more of that, please!

The translation​​ of​​ Acts 20:24​​ in the RSV reads,​​ But I do not account my life of any value nor as precious to​​ myself, if only I may accomplish my course and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God.

Chapter 20 of Acts begins with the reminder of the problems that had arisen because of Paul’s teaching that there was only one God and this was not a god made by human hands. ​​ A silversmith named Demetrius would be directly affected if the people began to follow this teaching because his business in making silver shrines would suffer. ​​ The concern was not really if​​ Paul’s teaching was right or wrong, it was monetary. ​​ If there was no need for idols then there would be no need for craftsmen to make them. ​​ The financial likelihood of this group would be in danger. ​​ So the whole city of Ephesus was in disorder, led by Demetrius (see Acts 19).

This turmoil did not stop Paul however. ​​ In Acts 20, we have record of the Jews plotting against him. ​​ Paul recounts his hardships in​​ Acts 20:19 – “serving the Lord with all humility and with tears and with trials​​ which came upon me​​ through the plots of the Jews”. ​​​​ “Well might the apostle say, he was in deaths often, in perils of robbers, in perils in the city, in perils by my own countrymen, in perils among false brethren.”​​ William Burkitt New Testament

Through all the apostles’ trials and tribulations, imprisonments, and false accusations, the example we have recorded for us is his boldness for Jesus. ​​ In​​ Acts 20:20-21​​ we read that Paul “did not shrink from declaring anything profitable and teaching publicly from house to house, solemnly testifying to everyone of repentance toward God and faith in our Lord Jesus Christ.”  ​​​​ And, although he knows afflictions and imprisonment will continue, he is not thwarted in his goal to preach Christ. ​​ 

The questions, “Why?” and “How?” beg to be answered. ​​ I would propose that none of us have ever come close to the rejection and persecution of Paul. ​​ Yet we have assimilated several “acceptable” excuses to be much less bold – milquetoast. ​​ Look again at​​ Acts 20:24. ​​ “But I do not consider my life of​​ any account as dear to myself, in order that I may finish my course, and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify solemnly of the gospel of the grace of God”.

The KJV of this verse start out with the words, “But none of these things move me”. ​​ In other words, no persecution or imprisonment or any kind of adversity whatsoever, keep me from my purpose. ​​ Wow, we are given a picture in the heart of a soldier that has a high view of God and sees himself as only an instrument for God’s purpose and glory!

Consider. ​​​​ What keeps you from sharing the Gospel? ​​ Is it a concern that people won’t like you? ​​ Do you refrain from showing your excitement about Christ because others will be turned off or think you’re weird? ​​ Is it possible to take your faith too seriously? ​​ I’m not promoting the idea that everyone should become a political activist, I’m not suggesting we hold large signs and stand on the corner of a busy intersection, but what about just bringing up the subject with your words? ​​ What have you got to lose? ​​ Sure, some may roll their eyes but you just might encourage a lost soul to look at the only One who can truly help them find their way. ​​ I wonder if the apostle Paul even considered his own comfort in sharing Christ…

We have to ask​​ an additional question.​​ ​​ How do we address sin in ourselves and in others? ​​ Do we measure our actions and thoughts according to the world around us, using what is acceptable as our scale? ​​ Or, do we see sin clearly from God’s truths and take action to​​ put off​​ behavior that is inconsistent with being a child of God?

I was in a conversation with someone who had been struggling with the battle of a specific sin. ​​ They had come to the resolution that it would just have to be okay to allow this behavior in their life because the thought of doing without was too much to ask. ​​ They assured me they loved Christ and were desiring to live for Him, just not in this one area. ​​ The thought that God would ask them to deny themselves this one pleasure for the rest of their lives was difficult to accept. ​​ Can we​​ serve​​ God wholeheartedly and still choose to live in sin? ​​ This was a difficult interaction but the answer is so clear. ​​ We are to honor God in all things. ​​​​ 

Joh 8:34 Jesus answered them, Verily, verily, I​​ say unto you, whosoever committeth sin is the servant of sin. ​​​​ (KJV)

Ga 5:24 Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Ro 6:12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body that you should obey its lusts,

No amount of negativity thwarts Paul’s mission to proclaim truth. ​​ His own life is not held as valuable as the message he has been commissioned to preach. ​​ His own desires are not what he lives for. ​​ He says his life is not ‘dear​​ to himself’. ​​ He honors God;​​ the message of Christ is more precious than his reputation. ​​ Do we care more about what others think of​​ us​​ than what they think of​​ God? ​​ 

Why does Paul make the​​ statement,​​ But I do not consider my life of any account as dear to myself? ​​​​ He goes on to explain his thinking as we move through the verse. ​​ Acts 20:24​​ continues,​​ ‘in order that I may finish my course and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus’. ​​ So if his own consideration of his life gets in the way with the ministry he has in Christ, then he chooses to uphold his​​ mission above himself. ​​ You want to just be a cheerleader for Paul, right! ​​ But maybe, we want to be more than cheerleaders on the sideline, maybe, we want to be on the squad, in the game. ​​ 

How is Paul able to do this? ​​ How are we able to have this mindset? ​​​​ Consider. ​​​​ Where did Paul receive his ministry? ​​​​ From the Lord Jesus.​​ ​​ This is a win-win! ​​ If God wants us to do something, He will provide what we​​ need: ​​ His understanding, His strength, His boldness, His grace – whatever is needed to fulfill His will for us​​ to accomplish the works He has ordained. ​​ I began writing this blog several months ago. ​​ As I’ve been studying, and praying about my own lack of boldness, I’ve seen some incredible changes that can only come from God working in me. ​​ Seriously, over the last month I’ve been able to share the truths of God’s word with more people than I can count. ​​ These are not people that I know, I haven’t even ‘tested’ the waters before I​​ speak.​​ I’ve just asked the question straight up, “Is Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior?”​​ or “Have you been able to trust in Jesus for ……? ​​​​ People want to tell you about themselves, about their problems and struggles – I think God is giving me better ears to hear,​​ coupled with a growth in genuine concern and compassion. ​​​​ The conversations God has ordained have been incredible! ​​ Mostly​​ interactions have been encouraging​​ with opportunities to share​​ the Gospel message;​​ a few individuals were closed doors to Truth,​​ but still positive words were exchanged. ​​ I truly believe that God has blessed my desire to tackle my own problem of​​ Milquetoast! ​​​​ Certainly, all glory to God for His amazing grace and work in the life of a sinner such as myself. ​​​​ But, He will use us. He will provide understanding, strength, boldness and grace – whatever is needed to fulfill His will for us to accomplish the works He has ordained.

I love the encouraging truths from Philippians 1:

Php 1:3-7 I thank my God in all my remembrance of you,​​ 4​​ always offering prayer with joy in my every prayer for you all,​​ 5​​ in view of your participation in the gospel from the first day until now.​​ 6​​ [For I am] confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.​​ 7​​ For it is only right for me to feel this way about you all, because I have you in my heart, since both in my imprisonment and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel, you all are partakers of grace with me.

What​​ is the mission? ​​​​ To testify solemnly of the gospel of the grace of God. ​​ To witness to others, specifically the gospel, God’s grace​​ in the lives of sinners. ​​ This is more than​​ just witnessing by my life style,​​ and​​ by what others see in me. ​​ Although this is important and may even lead to conversation, it is passive. ​​ It’s more ‘the sidelines’ cheerleader and the extra players on the bench than it is​​ being on​​ the team on the field. ​​ Paul has​​ been on the field, in fact, leading the way. ​​ Remember Paul’s testimony? ​​​​ ​​ 1Ti 1:15 It is a trustworthy statement, deserving full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, among whom I am foremost [of all.]​​ ​​ None of us are without sin; a perfect God does not need to save perfect people! ​​ Let’s get out there with the right motivation, remembering who we are without Christ, sharing out of gratitude what we’ve been given.​​ 

1Ti 1:5; 9-11 But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.​​ 9​​ realizing the fact that law is not made for a righteous man, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers​​ 10​​ and immoral men and homosexuals and kidnappers and liars and perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound teaching,​​ 11​​ according to the glorious gospel of the blessed God, with which I have been entrusted.

Where are we in our boldness for Christ? ​​ We are to be exceedingly joyful to serve our Lord Jesus in the ministry​​ we have received​​ to earnestly share the good news of God’s grace!​​ Are we​​ instead​​ choosing to be​​ Milquetoast?